Jovan Belcher’s decision to commit murder-suicide shocked the sports world to its very core yesterday. Among the many questions that everyone who heard this story were left with, the biggest and most looming one was: why? Why would a man with a three-month-old daughter and seemingly everything to live for do something this horrifically insane?
There needs to be a lengthy official investigation into the specifics of what drove Belcher to murder Kasandra Perkins before taking his own life; however, over the past 24 hours, friends of the pair have tried to provide a bit of insight into what -- they think -- the final straw in this relationship may have been.
According to the Kansas City Star, Belcher and Perkins had an argument early Saturday morning that may have led to this tragic final outcome.
According to a friend of Kasandra Perkins, the woman killed today by Chiefs linebacker Jovan Belcher, the couple argued in the early morning hours after the woman was out late attending Friday’s Trey Songz concert at The Midland.
The friend, who asked not to be identified, said Belcher confronted Perkins when she returned home about 1 a.m.
The couple had dated about three years and argued frequently, the friend said, but she wasn’t aware of any prior physical abuse.
On Sunday morning, Deadspin attempted to elaborate a bit on that report by painting a picture of Belcher’s mental state in the final weeks, days and hours of his life. Based on their correspondence with an unnamed friend of the former Chiefs linebacker, it is clear that Belcher was dealing with a lot of demons.
Two key parts of the Deadspin piece:
When it comes to prescription medication it is unclear from my perspective whether it was diagnosed and authorized by the team or not. However I know he was under the influence of narcotics for pain and I'm sure the toxicology report will reflect this. However, Jovan drank ALOT. On a nightly basis. This is not a mystery as he did so in public and private.
When it comes to his concussions; if you review the footage of the Cincinnati game he took a few hits to the head directly [...] he was dazed and was suffering from short term memory loss. He could not remember the events that had taken place prior to that game or what he had said to get Kasi to return home.
This was the result of a long term conflict. I'm referring to the rumors that this was solely related to an argument about her attending the Trey Songs concert... It wasn't. Kasi had left and taken Zoe (their daughter) to a relatives house without his consent and refused to come home. In addition to that she made it clear that she was leaving and wild contact a lawyer to "get as much money as possible". Her friends are speaking to the media so, I only feel write providing his perspective to this situation. It had little, if anything to do with one isolated argument.
At the end of the day, it isn’t particularly difficult to see where we will go from here. Some will come out and say that Belcher is a murdering monster and that people shouldn't rationalize his actions by making excuses for him. Others will point to circumstances that led to his psyche being as fragile as it was, and try to explain his actions using those circumstances. (Note: Not explain away, just provide context.) A different crowd will use this matter to further arguments regarding the sort of mental problems that NFL players have to deal with. And then another group will accuse that crowd of politicizing a tragedy for personal gain.
We’ve seen this movie before, even if it didn’t play out in the exact same way.
And then, when it's all said and done, this incident will fade away and eventually be forgotten just like each of the other approximately 600 murder-suicides that occur annually are typically forgotten.