Obituaries are known to have tones of mourning and loss.
However, an obituary that was featured in the Redwood Gazette took a different turn and captured the attention of many readers.
The written piece was for Kathleen Dehmlow (née Schunk), who passed away at the age of 80 on May 31, 2018 in Springfield. The obituary was written by her son and also included information about her life such as her date of birth, which was March 19, 1938. The piece also mentions her marrying Dennis Dehmlow in 1957, who she had two children with, Gina and Jay.
The next sentence of the obituary is where it took a dark turn, however. It stated that in 1962, Kathleen became pregnant, but not by her husband Dennis. Instead, it was by her husband’s brother, Lyle Dehmlow. She then moved to California, abandoning her husband Dennis and both her children, Gina and Jay. Her parents, Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Schunk, who lived in Clements, took on the task of raising the two children.
The last paragraph of the obituary then states that she will “now face judgement” and that both Gina and Jay will not miss her. Furthermore, the obituary went on to state that they both “understand that this world is a better place without her.”
The obituary’s tone is understandable as it was her estranged son Jay who wrote it. He also mentioned that he was glad to have gotten the last word regarding his relationship with his mother.
Despite the bitterness and the harshness, there were also caring comments regarding the online publishing of the obituary. One person was kind enough to write, “What a life she lived. Hope you find peace,” and another commented, “The good Lord loves you more than anyone else ever could…RIP.”
Jay’s obituary for his estranged mother wasn’t the first one to get the attention of readers. The previous week, Barbara Gibson also wrote in her piece about her late husband, Col. Robert F. Gibson, that he “hated how all of you were incapable of driving competently.”