Parents who get too involved in their kids’ sports can sometimes get out of control on the sidelines and, as a result, forget that they are supposed to be showing support. It’s not about you, it’s about the children.
The Parks and Recreation Department in Covington, Washington, has put together seven things for parents to keep in mind while they are attending their child’s sporting event.
With the heading, “PLEASE REMEMBER,” in bold red letters, the list reminds parents:
While the City of Covington Parks and Recreation Athletics Program code of conduct is directed towards participants, the park ordinances and rules can also apply to spectators.
One of the prohibited behaviors mentioned in the set of rules is: “Derogatory or unsportsmanlike conduct, including, but not limited to, the use of profanity or demeaning language, intimidation, taunting, teasing and/or ridiculing or any other abusive and/or harassing language or behavior towards players, coaches, managers, teams, spectators, officials, or Covington Athletics staff.”
In an essay in The Atlantic, one parent discusses living his own sports dreams through his children and why adults are “too focused on the score.”
“Winning, even for spectators (and the research was done only on males), gives a testosterone surge, and losing actually lowers hormone levels,” Lisa Endlich Heffernan writes. “As parents we so identify with our kids that their success quickly becomes our own. As spectators, parents seek confirmation even at the earliest stages that great athletic possibilities exist for their child: a better team, starting spot, varsity experience or college scholarship.”