Author Suzanne Venker asserted on Feb. 9 that wives should be "more compliant and less dictatorial" for a happy marriage (video below).
Venker, who is the niece of the late conservative icon Phyllis Schlafly, gave her advice on "Fox & Friends" while promoting her new book: "The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage: How Love Works."
Venker told the co-hosts that her new book was about herself and her mother. She described her mother as "very much an alpha" and went on to say that she could "never could shift out of that mode, and it caused a lot of problems. There was a lot of contention there."
Later in the show, co-host Ainsley Earhardt asked Venker: "Can you give us some tips? Please?"
Venker then held up two batteries to explain why husbands should be alpha, and wives should be beta:
The goal is to get one of each. And if you are bringing the alpha energy to the table, and he's an alpha by nature because he's got all the testosterone, you're going to be like two bulls in a china shop, right? And then if you want him to be the more feminine person in the relationship, I guess you could do that, but that usually doesn't work for most people because women are naturally feminine.
"So you’re alpha when you go to work," Earhardt replied. "You’re powerful, you’re strong. You come home, what does the husband need from the woman?"
Venker advised women to be "more compliant and less dictatorial":
The husband needs from the woman softness instead of hardness. So happiness instead of anger. Being more compliant and less dictatorial. Basically not telling him what to do. I don't know how else to put it...
Nagging, perfectionist, telling him what he’s doing wrong. My husband would call it, I can't believe I'm saying this on national TV, directing his traffic. And so the opening of the book talks about just not directing his traffic...
Men are so simple to love. All they want is sex, companionship and respect. And women are so complicated that they need a whole lot more. But they don't realize how easy it is if you tap into that femininity to get that man to be more receptive to what you want.
In May 2015, Venker wrote an op-ed on FoxNews.com entitled "Why Men Won't Marry You."
Venker told readers how men used to marry for sex, but those days are over because women are too sexually available:
Men used to marry to have sex and a family. They married for love, too, but they had to marry the girl before taking her to bed, or at least work really, really hard to wear her down. Those days are gone. When more women make themselves sexually available, the pool of marriageable men diminishes.
Venker also blamed feminism for a lack of nuptials:
If women no longer expect or even want men to "take care of" them -- since women can do everything men can do and better, thank you very much, feminism -- perhaps the flipside is the assumption that women don’t need to take care of husbands, either. And if no one’s taking care of anyone, why the hell marry?