Over the past thirty years Western civilization has undergone a near
total transformation in sexual morality. Sex education programs assume
that teenagers (and increasingly pre-teens as well) simply will be
involved in sexual activity. Sexual purity, abstinence, and sexual
denial are written off as unrealistic, unfair, and repressive.
so, the Virgin Lips Movement will come as a shock to some older
evangelicals. For older Christians, the expectation was, as the Bible
makes clear, for sex to wait until marriage. As for kissing, that was
considered to be another matter altogether. To some of these older
Christians, the Virgin Lips Movement sounds like overkill and
I used to think this sort of thing was over-the-top. But after reading Suzanne's (excellent) article yesterday on Boundless, I no longer do. She writes:
Our culture is full of "empty words" that tell us that sexual
gratification is most important. But Paul warns that choosing
anything—whether sexual impurity or greed—over God is idolatry. So our
choices regarding "how far is too far" aren't about the behaviors
themselves but about our esteem of God and His commands.
These choices are so serious that we can potentially separate
ourselves from our spiritual inheritance—not only the prize awaiting us
in heaven but the power in Christ we can have now. One friend described
it this way: "Getting too physical just dulls you spiritually. Pretty
soon stuff that felt wrong doesn't feel wrong anymore."
And as a pastor, Dr. Mohler concurs. He says:
As any minister who works with youth and young adults knows, the
"how far is too far question" is a constant. The Virgin Lips Movement
represents a determination to stop that train before it leaves the
station, so to speak. Consider this: In the space of little more than a
single generation, we have seen the breaking down of virtually every
social and cultural support for sexual abstinence. ...Now, most young
couples face the temptation of romantic contexts in which intimacy --
and this means sexual intimacy -- is a likely outcome. The Virgin Lips
Movement represents a serious effort to push back against this
expectation and to create boundaries that will protect virtue and honor
If you're in a relationship and sin is crouching at your door, both articles are welcome sources of encouragement.