Guest blogger Christina Montoya Fiedler:
You know those dramatic double takes that people do in the movies? Well, I may have actually done one when I was in the grocery store last week and saw a headline announcing that the Duggars are open to -- and considering -- having yet another child.
The whole thing is making me ask, "When is enough ... enough?" And I'm sure I'm not the only one.
Let me first say, hats off to Michelle Duggar
. She's an incredible woman, and most people couldn't do half of what she does in one day. I know I can't.
But consider this: The Duggars' nineteenth baby, Josie, was born prematurely and spent weeks in the hospital before she was able to go home and join her eighteen brothers and sisters. On top of that, she had a perforated bowel and digestive problems that threatened her life. At that point, most of America thought the Duggars would call it quits on their baby-making days. Not so.
Both parents are in their mid-to-late 40s. When Josie is 20, they will be in their late 60s. Sad to think, but they probably won't live to see many of their grandchildren, or be fit enough to wrestle around with their kids on the playground without some serious aches and pains. Is it even possible to attend emotionally to that many kids and give them the attention that each one needs as a unique individual? Most of us have trouble doing so with just one or two kids. Imagine what it's like with nineteen ... or twenty.
And what about the social implications? "People think we are overpopulating the world," said Jim Bob
in a recent issue of People Magazine
. "We are following our convictions." Point well taken, Jim Bob
, but is it fair to the children -- and to your wife, who stands to have another bout of preeclampsia and risk having a fatal stroke? What would you do as a single father of 20?
Yes, the Duggars might "want" to have more kids, but what will the quality of life be like for that twentieth child? Help me out here, moms. What do you think about the fact that the Duggars are openly trying for baby number 20?