A Tennessee man said his fiancee was left in tears after their apartment manager ordered her out of the community pool for wearing a one-piece swimsuit that was deemed inappropriate because of her body type.
"My fiancee should be able to wear a bathing suit without being sexualized and demeaned," Tyler Newman wrote in a viral Facebook post, which more than 19,000 people reacted to and more than 20,000 people had shared in the three days since it was posted. "She shouldn't feel violated."
Newman said his fiancee, Tori Jenkins, faced "sexual harassment" and "rape culture" when the couple took a dip with friends and an apartment manager told her to cover up or leave.
"Tori was accused of wearing a 'thong bathing suit' and told there were complaints about the way she was dressed after roughly [three] minutes tops, of us arriving there," he continued. "We both kind of sat there in disbelief around five of our friends, some of which are residents and some not."
Jenkins privately spoke to the leasing consultant, who reportedly "insisted upon" taking photos to "show 'how inappropriate' her bathing suit was and instructed her to look into a mirror at her own body."
Jenkins explained that because her rear is large for her body type, clothing sometimes rides up. The manager said she wouldn't want her kids around the woman.
"She was told that her body, because it's built more curvy than others is 'too inappropriate' for children to be around," Newman explained. "She was told 'there are a lot of teenage boys in this complex, and you don't need to excite them.' … Today my fiancee was told that she is less important than how men feel around her. That Tori is less important than a man's urges to be sexual towards her."
He said she couldn't "look her best friends in the face" afterwards and burst into tears in their apartment.
On her Facebook, Jenkins said the ordeal had her "tired" and "beaten down."
"Those of you who know me know I don't react to things much but this situation has really gotten to me," she added.
The rules at the pool, which the couple pays $300 to maintain, call for "duly appropriate attire ... at all times" and "no cutoffs," according to Newman.
Most people supported Jenkins, while a few agreed that she was dressed inappropriately, especially after seeing this photo that she has deleted from her Instagram.
"I get the whole rape culture thing but she was asked to leave in the first place because she was wearing a thong and it's a family pool," one person commented. "If she leaves it up her a** like that, she's wearing a thong."
Newman said that photo was taken on a different day and that she doesn't usually wear her suit like that. The problem, he said, was telling Jenkins to dress differently to avoid exciting teenage boys.
"We are not liars, we weren't looking for attention," he added.