A New Jersey woman is being sued by her ex-husband for writing “bum” and “loser” on the weekly alimony checks she sends him.
Francis J. Wagner Jr filed a lawsuit against his ex-wife for reportedly exacerbating his emotional and physical health due to memo notes she writes on the $186 alimony checks she mails to him weekly.
"As far as I'm concerned I can write anything I want on the memo line because it's a note to myself,” Diane Wagner said, according to Daily Record. “I was the victim in that marriage. What more blood does he want from me? I pay him religiously.”
Diane said she suffered drunken episodes from her ex-husband during their 10-year marriage. As her former spouse collects Social Security/Disability and she could not afford a divorce trial, she agreed to pay him $744 a month in spousal support for six years to end the marriage. She is currently undergoing treatment for cancer and can barely afford the support checks, but she was denied her request for a reduction.
The former wife had been regularly sending the alimony payments when she was humiliated after a friend told her about a post on the Trautmann & Trautmann law firm Facebook page.
"Alimony for the man!” the caption read, next to a photo of one of Diane’s redacted checks. “What's funny is that the now ex-wife so hated paying our client -- the husband -- $800 per month for the next six years as alimony and she had written Alimony/Adult Child Support in the memo of the weekly checks -- until we put a stop to that harassment."
"When I found out my personal business was on the Facebook page, that caused me distress," she said.
Although the post was dated March 11, 2015, Diane reportedly didn’t receive any correspondence from the law firm until July.
“Please be advised that your writings are causing my client severe emotional distress and have led to him having sustained heart attacks in recent weeks,” the letter from the firm stated, which was dated July 22.
After getting the cease-and-desist letter, the lawsuit states that Diane started writing the acronym FOAD on the checks, which reportedly means "[expletive] off and die."