Guest blogger Michelle Kemper Brownlow: "Sex is sacred. Sex is serious. Sex is for married people only." That's how I teach it in my house, and ain't no one gonna change my mind.
As a teacher-turned-SAHM, I have seen it time and time again: If we parents settle for the minimum our children can do, that's what we will get. But when we set our standards high and raise the bar, THAT is what we'll get -- and sometimes even more.
In my personal opinion, parents give up too soon on their children when it comes to the subject of purity. Granted, it IS a tough subject; there are some ridiculous obstacles children of the 21st century will come up against that we parents have no experience with. But that doesn't mean we should give up. When a parent says to me, "Well, they're going to do it anyway. Nothing I say will stop them, so why not make sure they are protected?" I want to scream! That makes NO sense to me!
Let me put it another way. "Our child will most likely be born with health issues, so smoking while I am pregnant isn't doing any harm." "My toddler is going to walk into the street anyway, so I have his hospital room reserved." "My teen is going to text while driving no matter what I say, so I've already purchased her burial plot." Do you want to strangle the imaginary people making these comments? So do I. And that's exactly the way I feel when people don't set the bar high on their girls' self-esteem and self-respect.
Everyone knows teen boys don't respect the girls they sleep with. You know this. So why would you open your daughter up to the chastising she will face when a guy splashes her name on the bathroom wall as his latest conquest? Why would YOU risk HER reputation because you are too lazy to expect the most from her?
Organizations like The Best Friends Foundation, the HumanLife Alliance and Just Say Yes have statistics proving that kids WANT us to give them boundaries. It makes them feel safer, it makes them feel loved and they will thank you later. Think about it! Give your daughter the benefit of the doubt. She's worth it.