Nancy Lanza, mother and first victim of Sandy Hook shooter Adam Lanza, confided in a friend about her concerns over her troubled son less than a week before the shooting took place.
A “drinking buddy” of Nancy Lanza’s described to the Daily News the conversation he had with the 54-year-old mother of two at a bar called My Place in Newtown, Conn. Lanza told her friend she thought “she was losing” Adam in what the friend describes as an-out-of-character conversation.
“She just looked down at the glass and said, ‘I don’t know. I’m worried I’m losing him,’” said Lanza’s friend to the Daily News. “She said it was getting worse. She was having trouble reaching him.”
The bar friend explained that Lanza rarely talked about Adam — she usually talked about her older son Ryan — and that her sullen disposition was out of character.
“She was just always so full of life,” he said.
Her friend also divulged that about a year ago, Lanza mentioned Adam was burning himself with a lighter. Authorities are speculating about if Adam suffered from a mental illness, such as Asperger’s Syndrome, that could have allowed him to commit such a terrible crime.
“This was a deeply disturbed kid,” a family insider told the Daily News. “He certainly had major issues. He was subject to outbursts from what I recall.”
Adam’s classmates, too, described him as disturbed.
“Adam Lanza has been a weird kid since we were 5 years old,” wrote Tim Dalton, a neighbor and former classmate, on Twitter. “As horrible as this was, I can't say I am surprised . . . Burn in hell, Adam.”
Nancy and Peter Lanza divorced in 2008 and according to their attorney Gary Oberst, Peter gave much more than he needed to in order for Nancy to support their children. He, too, was surprised and shaken by the tragedy.
Nancy Lanza’s friends describe her as kind and loving, and definitely incapable of fostering Adam’s disturbed behavior.