Happy Monday YOGANONYMOUS friends! I hope you enjoy this week’s mantra, you are all superstars!
Say what you will about Lady Gaga, but the chick knows how to get my booty shakin’. I usually download Gaga’s beats to blast while I’m getting my run on, or having a dance party with the girls pre-Saturday night on the town. But this weekend, for no other reason than it was raining like a maniac in NYC, I entrenched myself in my room and blasted Lady Gaga’s newest song, “Born This Way” while I practiced yoga.
Okay, so why am I writing an article about Lady Gaga? What does she have to do with my mantra, hmmm?
Well, for starters, how about these lyrics:
I’m beautiful in my way
Cuz god made no mistakes
I’m on the right track baby
I was born this way
Don’t hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you’re set
I’m on the right track baby
I was born this way
If you read my article last week on Yoganonymous, you’ll know that lately, I’ve been struggling with staying present and not worrying so much about the future. And it’s something I’m still working on. But knowing that there are millions of people around the world who are struggling with being who they are and who are afraid to reject the lives that they are expected to live, makes me feel hopeful. Enter Gaga and her powerful, status-quo rejecting lyrics.
In my yoga teacher training, we were taught that everything we need, everything that makes us who we are, is within us. We were taught that we, in the simplest meaning, are enough. The answers to life’s questions? It’s already inside you, girl. We just have to start believing that it’s in there, and stop looking to the external factors justify our existence.
So right now you’re thinking “Great, Lauren. You’ve told me something I ALREADY KNOW. I listen to Lady Gaga. I’ve been told that I’m perfect just the way I am my whole life. That doesn’t make me want to stop trying to lose 10 pounds or buy a new pair of shoes like all my friends have.” And that’s fine!
I’m not suggesting we should all give up and live passive existences because, well, there’s nothing I can do because I was born this way. I am suggesting that we all take a deep look at our values and question why some of the things that we believe are important to us actually are. Let me give you an example:
I’ve been struggling with my career. I went to a traditional, Jesuit university. My dad paid, ooohhhh, a few arms and a leg to make sure I stayed enrolled for four years. That’s something for which I will forever be grateful. But part of me is itching to get out and live a life of travel, adventure, and, well, not anything that I studied for four years to do. I am stuck, literally, in the track that my choice of university planned out for me even before I enrolled. This working generation has so many opportunities (virtual, digital, etc.) that it seems selfish to me to deny the “path” that my parents blazed before me. It seems insulting to the women that went before me who made it okay for me to work in a corporate environment for me to say “Forget THAT” and not take advantage of the opportunities they worked so hard to create for my generation.
But that doesn’t mean I’m going to give up who I am because I know which version of me will be the most pleasing to my parents. And maybe it will take me a while to figure out what part of whatever it is that’s inside me that I should be listening to. But, thanks to Gaga and my yoga and my supportive global family, I know that, right now, I am enough. And the only thing that is worse than not knowing where to go is following a path that is anything but true to the person that I want to be.
Okay, so now it’s your turn. Turn inward and ask yourself what part of you are you truly fighting? You may say “Nothing. I’m perfectly happy with every aspect of my life” (If you say that, please email me your secret.)
Is it a relationship that is plaguing you and forcing you to act differently than how you want to act?(this is different than compromise. We can’t have the remote all the time, and maybe it’s better if you don’t nag him if he leaves his underwear on the floor.) Is it a job that depresses you and makes you not want to wake up in the morning? Is it a roommate/neighbor/friend that you can’t stand up to because you’re nervous of hurting their feelings? All these questions are valid, and you shouldn’t feel ungrateful or selfish if you are feeling these things. Because, as Gaga says “Don’t hide yourself in regret, just love yourself and you’re set. You’re on the right track, baby, you were born this way.”
What part of your life are you struggling with? And how awesome is Lady Gaga’s new song?!