Watching Michael Jackson’s memorial yesterday was surreal at times. Not knowing what to expect, I think many were a bit disarmed by how respectful people were and how heart-felt it ended up being. It was a moving tribute to a man who clearly touched many around the world with his music, dance and energy in different ways.
The fans, celebrities, family and friends who were spoke, sung and were interviewed gave a unified and positive message about the impact that Michael Jackson had on their lives and the world. The outliers were the main media trying in vain to dig for dirt that either isn’t there, that no one cares about or that simply may not matter given the impact of his music on so many people.
There’s no denying how troubled elements of Jackson’s life were. We may never really have all the details or understand what lead to his death but it may not be for us to understand. Just because he was a mega-star and in the public eye at times doesn’t give us the right to assume we are owed knowing everything. In life, he was fiercely protective of his privacy. In death, his family and friends are all fiercely protective of his privacy. Frankly, that’s the way it should be and for the sake of his family and his kids it’s time the mainstream media moved on until actual details are known and released by the family…if they opt to do so.
What’s interesting is that only the mainstream media seem to care about getting the answers to those unanswered questions about Jackon’s life. The rest of the world is content to just celebrate his music and the many musical gifts he gave to the world. You only had to look at the images shown on TV yesterday to see and feel Jackson’s impact around the globe and understand that. Someday, those images are what will help his children heal and that’s what matters more than anything else.
There has been a great deal of talk about Jackson’s children. Watching Jackson’s children yesterday, I was struck by their poise. That type of poise only comes from being much loved and well raised. Those were not images of oddities or wild children but images of normal children in deep emotional pain, surrounded by a family they are obviously comfortable with and who loves them very much.
Paris was as eloquent as a child could be saying goodbye to her beloved dad in front of so many people. In fact, just to be able to do that shows how much self-confidence Jackson instilled in her. His eccentricities aside, he clearly did something right with those kids.
I’ll never forget little Paris saying: "Ever since I was born, daddy has been the best father you could ever imagine. And I just want to say that I love him so much.”
Brooke Shield’s said Jackson’s favorite song was “Smile”. I have no doubt Michael was doing that with a tear in his eye as Paris was talking…very proud. What a legacy to leave behind.