A woman penned a letter to the father of her potential child after she got an abortion – now, it’s viral.
The 425-word letter was originally uploaded to Reddit under the username silenced0213. The writer noted that she was scared the father of her child would blame, reject or hurt her. She also expressed a fear of him agreeing to her getting an abortion.
“I was convinced that you would ditch me if I made the decision to keep it,” the woman wrote. “I was convinced that you would be like my dad and that I would have to do it all on my own.”
The woman also apologized for not confiding her fears in her partner.
“I’m sorry that you didn’t get a chance to say goodbye…or even say hello,” she wrote.
Some commenters praised the anonymous writer for telling her story. Some even supported her decision not to tell her partner about the abortion. One user suggested that the writer’s life could have been at risk during childbirth, while her partner would only have risked emotional pain.
Another commenter wrote that “many guys” promise their girlfriends anything to convince them into carrying a baby to term.
Other commenters condemned the woman for sharing the story publicly and accused her of lacking heart. One commenter argued that the writer should have just confronted her partner instead.
Check out the entire letter below:
To the father of the baby I aborted, I’m sorry that I didn’t include you in my decision. I should have and I regret it to this day. Telling you crossed my mind. Everyday… it still does. But in my way I thought that’d I’d protect you from the panic, fear, and dread that I felt. See I was scared. Scared that you’d reject me… even more scared that you would agree with my decision. I was scared of possibly seeing the look of disgust and hatred on your face. I was scared that you would blame me. I was scared that you would hate the life inside of me. But I was also scared that you would change my mind. I was scared that you would convince me everything would work out. I was scared that you would offer your support. I was scared that you would take its side. I was scared. I convinced myself that I didn’t need to confide in you, that you had no say. I was convinced that it wouldn’t have worked, that neither of us were cut out to be parents. I was convinced that you would ditch me if I made the decision to keep it. I was convinced that you would be like my dad and that I would have to do it all on my own. I was convinced that you already had your life and wouldn’t want the added pressure of two more. I was convinced that I was right, and I didn’t need your opinion. And I’m sorry. I’m sorry that I didn’t talk to you because that life was half of you. I’m sorry that I didn’t confide in you and face my fears. I’m sorry that you didn’t get a chance to say goodbye… or even say hello. I’m sorry that you missed the opportunity to be a father. I’m sorry that you didn’t get a choice. But you never knowing… i may have saved you the endless thoughts, the deep ridden regret, the aching emptiness as the due date draws near. I may have saved you the guilt of being free of that responsibility and pressure. I may have saved you the anger and fear. But I may have deprived you of one of the greatest joys in your life just as I have done to myself. And there are no words to explain how cruel and selfish I was in making that decision without you… there are no words to express an apology with the utmost sincerity. Please forgive me. -M.
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