While most parents don’t like to admit it, they likely do have a favorite child, as a recent study showed one in ten confess to favoring one child over the other.
The study quizzed 1,237 British parents who had at least two children ages three and up. When they were asked if they gave equal attention to all of their children, 62 percent said “no.”
Then they were asked to explain why.
Forty-five percent of respondents said they didn’t spend equal time with their children because each child had “different needs,” while more than a fifth of them said they spent less time with other children because they saw them less.
And the juiciest detail: 13 percent admitted to spending more time with a certain kid because they were their “favorite.”
When they were asked more questions about their favorite child, a quarter replied that they felt they could do “more things” with them, while 42 percent said they had a “stronger bond” with the favorite child.
Almost 20 percent of respondents said they had a favorite because the child liked the “same things” as them, while 14 percent said they preferred one child over the others because they didn’t misbehave as much.
A 32-year-old mother said she had a favorite because she felt she could do more things with him.
“I feel like my older son is my favorite because we both enjoy doing outdoor activities such as going to the park or the zoo, whereas my other son shares a lot more with his dad and likes doing more intellectual activities,” she said.
Another mother said she had more time to bond with one child, which is why she is her favorite.
“Because I was a stay-at-home mom for my first child, I spent a lot more time and developed a stronger bond with my daughter, whereas I had to go back to work a few months after giving birth to my second child and never had the chance to be as close,” she said.
When they were asked to reflect on their own childhood, nearly half said they felt their parents had a “favorite.”