The family of Newtown school shooter Adam Lanza is speaking out on the effects the 2012 massacre has had on his remaining family.
His father, Peter Lanza, 55, is reportedly riddled with guilt over the incident, finding it “impossible” to come to terms with the atrocity his son committed.
“Peter is a changed man. He’s broken. How can you ever begin to try and deal with that? It’s just impossible,” his sister-in-law, Marsha Lanza, who lives in Illinois, told the Daily Mail.
“Shaken to the core” the family is unable to talk about the shooting, which left 20 children and six adults dead at Sandy Hook Elementary School. Adam also killed his mother before turning the gun on himself.
“Peter has only spoken about it to a very, very small number of people including my husband Michael, his brother, as they are very close. It’s still too much even for Michael and sometimes he tells me not to ask about it,” she said.
Despite living hundreds of miles away from the shooter, many in the Lanza family say they get stares whenever people learn their name.
“It happens everywhere, the bank, restaurants, gas stations,” Marsha Lanza said. “You see them see the name, ask for your ID and then you know what they’re thinking. I know what’s going through their mind.”
"The Lanzas are all dealing with it by themselves and they have not had a big family meeting or anything,” she said. “I tried to speak to Nancy's brother when I was out East in September but he did not want to see me.”
According to a report released by Connecticut prosecutors this week, Peter had regular contact with his son up until 2010, when the relationship deteriorated. Peter split up with Adam’s mother Nancy in 2001 and the couple later divorced. Nancy had sole custody of Adam, who suffered from Asperger’s syndrome.
The report said Nancy, who was the first person Adam shot and killed on Dec. 14, 2012, catered to her son’s every whim and allowed him to avoid speaking to her for the three months leading up to the massacre.
Adam only communicated to his mother via email, despite seeing her around the house.
He banned his mother from his room, where he had blacked-out windows and a seven-by-four foot poster on his wall ranking the top 500 mass killings of all time by the number of fatalities.
Peter Lanza’s only public statement after the massacre was: “Our family is grieving along with all those who have been affected by this enormous tragedy. No words can truly express how heartbroken we are. We are in a state of disbelief and trying to find whatever answers we can. We are in a state of disbelief and trying to find whatever answers we can. We too are asking why.”