The oldest stepbrother of Leonardo DiCaprio says his relationship with the actor has been torn apart by fame, drugs and the celebrity lifestyle.
Adam Farrar and DiCaprio grew up together in Los Angeles. They “had a bond that was thicker than blood,” Farrar told the Daily Mail.
DiCaprio went on to command more than $20 million per movie, while Farrar succumbed to drug abuse and now struggles to make a living as a TV scene-painter.
“We were once so close,” Farrar said. “I loved him and I still do. But we’ve not spoken in a couple of years. The last time I saw Leo was at his birthday party a couple of years ago.”
However, DiCaprio did not invite Farrar to the party.
“I’d been invited by another friend," he said. "Leo was pleased to see me and gave me a hug. But when I try to call him, my messages go unanswered. He has a whole team around him now and it’s impossible to penetrate that wall of hangers-on.”
DiCaprio and Farrar are not biologically related. DiCaprio’s father, George, and Farrar’s mother, Peggy, got together after George split from the actor's mother.
Farrar has fond memories of growing up with DiCaprio.
“I loved having a little brother, and we got along really well,” he recalled.
“We’d go to the beach in the summer and skiing in winter,” Farrar said. “Our parents took us to the natural history and science museums. As we grew older we’d play video games together, ride our BMX bikes, and played handball for hours against a parking lot wall.”
They would also have sleepovers at the actor’s mother's home.
“Leo would often stay at his mother’s home just a block away, and I’d stay with him,” Farrar said. “We were as close as any two brothers could be.”
Farrar said he was there when DiCaprio’s career took off, from “Growing Pains” to when he became a huge star in "Titanic," and ran his fan club.
“Leo was actually convinced he’d made a terrible mistake with 'Titanic,'” Farrar said. “He was convinced it was going to be a flop. Then he became the biggest star in the world.”
While DiCaprio shunned drugs as his stardom rose, Farrar did not -- he took advantage of the endless parties with “free women and free cocaine.” His cocaine and marijuana habit soon turned into a heroin addiction, and DiCaprio then distanced himself from his stepbrother.
“I was arrested five or six times for petty theft, shoplifting from supermarkets, trying to support an opiate addiction of half a gram to a gram a day,” Farrar said. “Leo and I never had an argument. But he started surrounding himself with people that didn’t want me around. He’s the biggest star in the world and there’s me, messed up on drugs. I was slowly shut out of his world.”
Because of Farrar’s years of drug abuse, his 10-year-old daughter Normandie is living with George and Peggy after being removed from his care in 2014.
But he does not blame DiCaprio for his drug addiction.
“It was a heady world and I embraced it,” Farrar said. “I’m a grown man and I’m responsible for my own actions. I don’t blame Leo for that.”
Now sober, Farrar said DiCaprio is not concerned with the well-being of his family.
“Leo wants to save the world but he seems more concerned about the environment and climate change than he does about his own brother," he said. "It hurts."
Farrar has chosen to speak out about his strained relationship with DiCaprio because he wants to repair it, and hopefully get help to see his daughter.
He thinks that DiCaprio’s name may sway the judge in the custody case.
“I admit to making mistakes but [my partner] Charity and I have not seen our daughter in two years," he said. "All we want is for Normandie to know her parents. In this town, the DiCaprio name and money counts for a lot. My mother used Leo’s name in court and I am sure that influenced the judge. I don’t want anything from my brother but I’m the only brother he has. I just want him in my life. And I want to see my daughter.”
Farrar does not want DiCaprio’s life, in fact, he said he pities him.
“I see his life now, the fact that he’s still doing the partying and hanging out with models, and I feel sorry for him," he said "He hasn’t grown up. I’ve been with the same woman for 17 years and have a kid, but Leo’s still a playboy.”
A source close to the family told a different story to Cosmopolitan.
When police issued a warrant for Farrar’s arrest in March 2016 after he didn’t show up in court on charges of petty theft, he allegedly ran.
"Adam continues to run away from responsibilities and it's going to land him in jail again,” the source said. "He's struggled before with drugs and although he makes promises to get clean, he gets caught up in something else."
The source added that DiCaprio “got fed up with Adam asking to borrow money and not paying it back” and gave up on trying to help him.