Notes from a New Mom: I'd say I'm pretty generous when it comes to the sex department, especially in terms of all the stuff my hubby likes -- from quickies to me just taking care of him (if you know what I mean). Even though I'm a super-busy mom of a newborn baby, this guy is NOT missing out: I rarely turn him down, even when I'm tired (which is pretty much all the time), and I often please him when he wants.
However, turn the tables, and this little lady is frustrated as hell. I have asked my husband numerous times to "return the favor," to which he either says, "I will, I will" or "Don't be ridiculous: I DO return the favor."
Pffft -- he NEVER does! I mean, this guy wants sex, but he doesn't want to just take care of me (if you know what I mean)?! It's BS. It's so old-school and annoying to think that women are supposed to please their men. I am so over Cosmopolitan magazine telling us how to please them, what to do. What about US?!
I am the mom of a 1-year-old. I am (as every mom is) pretty tired and feeling less sexy than I did in my 20's. But when my guy rolls over in the morning looking for some action, I am usually always up for it. The other day, I realized, You know what? I'd like to be on the receiving end of this.
I can't even remember when he did anything to please me after I asked HIM to give me five minutes of his time. I've talked to him about it several times; I am not ashamed or afraid to tell my husband what my needs are. But he doesn't change. He's never once said, "Hey, what can I do for you?" He has not responded to my many requests -- which is appalling, if I may say so myself.
You know what? I certainly don't want to get in the habit of not being intimate at all, but when it comes to me pleasing him (without sex), I am going on strike. See how he likes that one ....