A 22-year-old woman who used to be bullied was recently asked on a date by one of her former bullies. Instead of simply rejecting him, she decided to do something else to help him understand how his actions affected her.
In an interview with BuzzFeed, Louisa Manning said she was first bullied at the age of 12, and for a few years following, the harassment was so bad that it caused her emotional and physical distress. According to her account, Manning says students constantly made fun of her for being “hairy” and called her “manbeast." Manning admits that for three years after the bullying began, she barely ate to try to lose weight.
Now, 10 years later, Manning is a beautiful 22-year-old student at University of Oxford, and recently, she was asked on a date by one of her former bullies. Instead of saying no, however, Manning saw it as an opportunity to teach the boy a lesson.
“I was pretty pissed off he asked me out, to be honest,” Manning told BuzzFeed. “It really made me angry that now I’m attractive, he instantly wants to jump into bed with me. My gut instinct was to say no, but then I realised what a brilliant opportunity it was, and after bouncing ideas off a friend for a few hours, we came up with an idea.”
Manning decided to arrive early for their date, and instead of waiting for him, she gave a waitress a note she wrote and asked her to hand it to the guy when he arrived. The note featured a picture of Manning at 12 years old and was brutally honest in its message.
“So sorry I can’t join you tonight,” the note reads. “Remember year 8, when I was fat and you made fun of my weight? No? I do – I spent the following three years eating less than an apple a day. So I’ve decided to skip dinner. Remember the monobrow you mocked? The hairy legs you were disgusted by? Remember how every day for three years, you and your friends called me Manbeast? No perhaps you don’t – or you wouldn’t have seen how I look eight years later and deemed me f---able enough to treat me like a human being. I thought I’d send you this as a reminder. Next time you think of me, picture that girl in this photo, because she’s the one who just stood you up.”
Manning decided to post about her experience on social media, and quickly, her note went viral. Amazingly, the guy she stood up wrote to her and apologized for what he did in the past.
“Hey… For what it’s worth, I was actually here to meet up looking for a chance to meet up looking to make friends, not because you are very good looking,” the guy admitted in a Facebook message to Manning. “I guess I had it coming though, and certainly don’t blame you for standing me up. I can’t change who I was 8 years ago, and I won’t insult your intelligence by pretending that it didn’t happen, but I hope you believe me when I say I’m a completely different person now. I can only apologise and wish you the very best. I guess I won’t hear from you again but I mean it when I say that I hope you have every success you deserve.”
Manning says she is shocked that she got any sort of apology from her former bully.
“I’m so shocked I actually got an apology,” Manny stated. “It’s 10 years too late, and, really, if he’d intended to apologize, he should have done so when I bumped into him last weekend rather than asking me out for dinner first. But it’s still an apology, and it’s still amazing I got one.”
Do you think Manning’s revenge was appropriate?