Did Airman Randy Phillips Err By Posting Video of Coming Out to Dad?

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Randy Phillips, a 21-year-old U.S. airman who has been keeping an anonymous video blog (he never showed his face on camera) about his quest to come out to his girlfriend, family, and fellow soldiers, posted a video that showed his phone call to his father where the soldier came out as gay.

Phillips, who is stationed at the Ramstein Air Base in Germany, sat alone in front of a camera and called his dad in Alabama to break the news (video below) after the military's 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell' policy officially ended at midnight. Phillip's Dad did not know that the phone call was being recorded and would be broadcast to the world via YouTube.

"You promise you'll always love me? Period?" Phillips asked his father, his voice shaking. He took a beat, and then said it: "Dad, I'm gay. I always have been. I've known for … forever."

His father pauses before saying, "I still love you son. It doesn't change our relationship and I always will, no matter what, all right? You are my son, and I am very proud of you."

While supportive, his father told ABC News that he was not exactly thrilled that his son put the private phone call on YouTube, but stated once again that he loves his son and always will.

This does raise the question over whether or not Phillip's dad's privacy was violated without warning. There is also the question about his other family members and girlfriend finding out this news over the Web.

Could Phillips have made the call without posting on YouTube?

Describing how his heart was "beating like crazy," Phillips told his father that he did not want to tell him over the phone, but wasn't sure when he would see him again and didn't want him to find out any other way.

On Twitter, Phillips had described himself as a "military member in the closet, using social media to build up the courage to come out to family, girlfriend, friends and co-workers." Here is the full YouTube video below.


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