A “Christian motivational speaker” came into a Dallas-area high school yesterday and left with an earful of student complaints and a new, not-very-flattering nickname on Twitter.
At issue were the dating “rules” he offers teens on his website, which encourage girls to “accept your girly-ness” and “shut up,” while proclaiming “God made guys as leaders.”
The colorfully named Justin Lookadoo (pictured) spoke at Richardson High School in the Dallas suburb of Richardson, Texas, to an assembly of students that was supposed to be optional. But that change was made at the last minute, so many students still thought the assembly was mandatory.
“I am extremely troubled by the fact that Richardson High School would bring in an ‘expert’ speaker who holds the dangerous, misogynistic views that advance a rape culture such as those expressed on his web site,” said parent Jamie Clark-Soles, who is a professor at Southern Methodist University.
Clark-Soles is an ordained Baptist minister herself and a professor of the New Testament at the university where her teaching specialties include “suffering, death, and afterlife,” “New Testament ethics,” and ‘preaching the New Testament.”
“I was given no information about an unnamed speaker on an unnamed subject,” Clark-Soles says.
As for Lookadoo’s credentials, according to his own website, “the name says it all, he’s a freak.”
His site says that he has a biology degree from Tarleton State University and is the author of the “#1 bestselling” book ‘Dateable.’”
It is from that book that the “dating rules” on Lookadoo’s website are taken. They include such gems as:
- “Dateable girls know how to shut up.”
- “You are soft, you are gentle, you are a woman. Don’t try to be a guy.”
- “Dateable guys know they aren’t as sensitive as girls and that’s okay. They know they are stronger, more dangerous, and more adventurous and that’s okay.”
- “A Dateable girl isn’t Miss Independent.”
- “God made guys as leaders. Dateable girls get that and let him do guy things ...”
It wasn’t just parents who had a problem with Lookadoo’s approach, even though he followed the school’s instructions to stay away from the “rules” and from a religious message in his school speech. Students weren’t too pleased either.
While some applauded, others heckled the speaker and peppered him with their own views afterward.
“Why did you tell girls to get out of abusive relationships instead of telling guys not to be abusive in the first place?” one student asked him.
Another student tweeted, “Because why should a motivational speaker even try to not make hasty generalizations about every guy and girl in high school?”
The students rechristened the speaker “#Lookadouche” on Twitter.
“I’ve done about 4,000 programs,” a bewildered Lookadoo told a local TV station. “That’s never happened.”
The school issued an apology later in the day.