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Is Spanking an Acceptable Form of Discipline?
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Spanking is harmful to children
Parents are role models for childrens behavior. When we cuss, children learn to curse, when we hit, slap or spank, children learn to hit. Spanking is a violent act. Spanking with belts, paddles or extension cords is clearly child abuse.
It is far better to be a good role model and to talk firmly to your children about what behavior is expected. Use time-outs, denial of TV, outside activities, etc. to make your point.
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- Jimmy Dunne
July 25, 2008 8:33AM
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thats whats wrong with kids today
a good spanking on the rump is what most kids need. thats why they have no respect for anybody these days.when most of us adults remember when we were young and got out of control we would be turned over on our parents lap and our rump beat into jelly .and we had respect .but over the years people started going to far with it and started being to violent and thats when the line was drawn.but was drawn in a wrong way.now if you look at a kid wrong you will get locked up and thats not right that just gave the kids the run of the roost.and thats whats wrong with them today (giving kids control)i think if a kid gets out of control a parent should turn them over on their lap and give them a old fashion spanking on the rump.and if they go to far with it .send them to prison for a while.not make other parents cut out spankings so their kids can get out of control.
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December 11, 2008 7:38PM
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Spanking does NOT bring respect
Spanking children does not bring respect for the parent, it brings anger, hatred and fear. It shows that the parent is out of control and is resorting to hitting a small defenseless child. People are not for hitting and children are people too. Discipline should be for teaching, not for punishment. Let the child know what you approve and disapprove of and they will want your approval.
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December 12, 2008 8:20AM
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Time Out Does Not Work
Spanking is most definitely an acceptable form of punishment. Children do not have the capability of reasoning. After a child is 9 or 10, depending upon their maturity, then reason with them and do not spank any further. DFS (department of family services) invented and advocated "Time Out" and then reversed their decision stating that you were neglecting your children. The fact of the matter is that we had less violence and disrespect back in the day that kids were afraid of getting a butt whooping. I whole heartedly agree with spanking (on the bottom with your hand). I do not agree with smacking your kids around or striking them with foreign objects.
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July 25, 2008 11:50AM
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I agree
I would have to agree with you. Time outs are not the way to go. especially if your children enjoy just sitting down and doing nothing. Spanking them is appropriate as long as it is not abusive.
- UltraConservative November 4, 2008 4:50AM
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From a former spankee
to a certain degree yes. I mean only in situations where the child repeatedly disobeys. for serious things like playing with fire, bullying, stealing etc. And only what a child can take no closed fist or switches or beating for over 10 minutes.
- rchot July 25, 2008 12:19PM
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if its not abuse
when i was little, let me tell you....if i talked back to my mother, was being rude to her face, snotty, etc...i got the ole backhand. of course when youre a child you get upset and yell at your parents and say things like "its not fair...i hate you etc.." my parents hardly ever spanked us when we were little....but if we deserved it, it was usually the back hand to the mouth or a smack on the ass. that was the extent of it. and it happend rarely. now im 24 yrs old and i nanny for 2 kids. let me tell you, i understand why we got the back hand!!! i do not have bad feeling towards my parents. i think they did one heck of a job raising me and my brother. and i understand fully why they felt sometimes they needed to give us a little smack when we were being brats. and we were little! we used to be brats and ill admit it. i think that if parents ONLY use spanking...or are bruising their child with it, then that could be concidered abuse. ill tell you, TIME OUTS and positive reinforcement...
- lanidee02 July 26, 2008 8:41AM
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continued from last post.....
and postive reinforcement DOES not always work. i have been working with children since i was 16. i see alot of spoiled kids who are rude and expect to have what they want when they want it all the time. sometimes i think i good smack in the mouth would set them straight. but they are not my kids and its not my place. there is a line between disceplin and abuse. when i have my own children it will be my choice how to discipline them. and if it means a slap on the butt then its a slap on the butt. but i am aware of the line....and i would never cross it.
- lanidee02 July 26, 2008 8:47AM
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If you can't tell...
If you can't tell spanking from beating, then you should do neither. Spanking is not abuse and likewise, abuse, by definition, is not spanking.
Spanking serves to make the child more uncomfortable for doing the bad act than the bad act gives him joy. If you can achieve this through other means, then go ahead. If you can't, however, then a whack on the backside may be called for. And in the long run, talking to your child or sending him to his room or a chair and getting the same result is sort of idiotic. And it annoys the child. And the people who think that you can't rear young.
I have been reading Rosemond for years and how he and I can agree so fully on child rearing and so completely disagree on our world view always amazes me. However, I am comfortable in saying that you will never find him justifying any position by citing biblical edicts; he may cite it as his own point of view, but he is far too intellectually honest to rely on the Bible to justify his position.
- Llantha
July 27, 2008 9:25AM
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Spanking = Abuse // A world of Bullies & Wimps
1.) A spanking is relative form of punishment - in terms of scale/intensity/degree.
2.) If my mom spanks me for behaving in a fashion that is not acceptable to her, it might not hurt.
3.) If my dad spanked me for behaving in a fashion that is not acceptable to him, it might be a near death experience.
4.) If my parents - who love me and play a major role in influencing me how to behave towards others - spank me when I behave in fashion unacceptable to them, then it must be okay to spank anyone who misbehaves according to me.
5.) I also want to bring up the point that it is against human nature to not want to defend yourself against someone beating the tar out of you. How do you think that screws with an individual's character? Where does that end?
6.) A world full of bullies and wimps.
- One Cylinder July 27, 2008 10:37AM
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Your Logic Falls Apart
Although your logic began reasonable enough, it begins to deteriorate when you factor in the basis that children do not reason as adults do. When children are young, you are not supposed to instill "take a beating and don't defend yourself." Quite the contrary. I have children and they are taught rules and respect in a certain order.
1) Respect and honor their parents.
2) Defend yourself against harm.
3) Defend your family
4) Speak out against unjust or unfair actions against you.
So, I do not teach my children to just "take a beating" as you put it. They are not to raise a hand against their parnets, but all others are fair game. But, as a parent, you also have to respect your children. We are trying to condition them not torture them. Any parent that actually makes it a routine to "beat" their children should be "beat" themselves.
- Gideon From The Dirty Onion
August 19, 2008 7:45AM
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If children can't reason, how does spanking help?
How does hurting a child to keep them from hurting themselves make sense? If children are too young to reason with, then why would spanking make a difference?
Here is your logic:
1. Your parents are always right, even if one of us is being irrational, unfair or trying to teach you something that doesn't make sense to you.
2. Defend yourself against harm, unless we are the ones harming you, because we are your parents and we get to harm you.
3. Defend your family, whether or not we are right.
4. Speak out, except against us, because that is back talk and you will get spanked for it.
There are many ways to teach our children to make correct choices without hurting them to do it.
- alisaterry September 19, 2008 4:12PM
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Illogical and Irrational Response
First of all, if you do not have children, please do not attempt a response. Unless you have children, there is no way you can understand. You may think you can. But you would be wrong.
I love it when people read my responses and cherry pick pieces of it rather that respond to it in its entirety. Let's respond to your points one at a time in a fashion like you did to me.
Your title - If children can't reason, how does spanking help? I know you will blow this way out of proportion and try to use correlations that I am not making against me. But I will proceed with my statement anyway. Cows can't reason, not on our intelligence level. Why do electric fences work then? Because it doesn't take many brain cells to move away from harm.
How does hurting a child to keep them from hurting themselves make sense? You are attempting to make me out as a monster. I would rather pop mu child's hand when they try to touch an electric socket than to tell them, "no no no" and them get shocked to death. Do I choose swatting their hand over hospitalization or death? Most certainly. What would you do?
Logic:
1) What I said: Respect and honor their parents. What you interpreted: Your parents are always right, even if one of us is being irrational, unfair or trying to teach you something that doesn't make sense to you. Response: Yes. At a young child's age, the parent is always right regardless or rationalization. And at the age of 4 and under, most things do not make sense to the child, so yes the kid should listen to their parent. It is their parent's job to teach their child after all.
2) What I said: Defend yourself against harm. What you interpreted: Defend yourself against harm, unless we are the ones harming you, because we are your parents and we get to harm you. Response: Once again you are attempting to overreach the point. Yes, always defend yourself from harm. From Webster - Harm: physical or mental damage. If you are disciplining your child and not beating the living day lights out of them, no harm (injury) should arise. Did you not read my post in its entirety? I said, "But, as a parent, you also have to respect your children. We are trying to condition them not torture them. Any parent that actually makes it a routine to "beat" their children should be "beat" themselves."
3) What I said: Defend your family. What you interpreted: Defend your family, whether or not we are right. Response: Most definitely. I do not care if my wife is wrong or children are wrong. I will never choose a stranger's side over my own family's side. And if you would, I am sorry for your family as you are more concerned with being right than being loyal to those you love.
4) What I said: Speak out against unjust or unfair actions against you. What you interpreted: Speak out, except against us, because that is back talk and you will get spanked for it. Response: Do not stand for injustice against yourself. As a small child, they can not decipher what is unjust and what is just. As they grow older, they will have respect and know how to discuss things they believe to be unfair without being disrespectful. Talking back in a disrespectful way should not be tolerated when the child is very young as you are teaching them behaviors that will only intensify. Speaking out does not mean you have to be disrespectful when doing so.
No, spanking should not be your first or only form of punishment. If it is, you are not trying to teach your children. You are simply trying to submit your children. There is a huge difference between applying a spanking because it is the last resort to curb a negative or harmful behavior and doing so because you do not know any other recourse.
You said, "There are many ways to teach our children to make correct choices without hurting them to do it." Please elaborate on what your suggestions are to help a child (4 and under) to make correct choices about things like not sticking their fingers in a light socket or picking up scissors (or other sharp object). When responding, please refrain from the answer of putting socket covers on the light sockets as this does not teach the child you are simply avoiding the lesson. And thinking that every child in the world will stay away from sharp objects is not plausible, so please refrain from the suggestion of "keep sharp objects away from them." That is obvious, but children have a way of finding things.
- Gideon From The Dirty Onion
September 19, 2008 5:04PM
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I have two children, a 10 month old and 3 year old
So you can throw out that assumption. And they never get spanked. Not even a smack on the hand.
I am making you out as a monster because I think people who spank their children ARE monsters. You just compared your child to a thoughtless cow. OY!
I don't smack my child to keep them from shocking themselves. I put covers on the plugs. Voila. I put gates up to keep my children from dangerous situations. And my three year old, not being a cow, knows what the word "ouch" and "danger" mean. My baby doesn't, hence the gates and plug covers.
You say that prevention doesn't teach a lesson, but neither does spanking , or you wouldn't have to do it. At least my way doesn't exchange one pain for another. "Don't hurt yourself or I will have to hurt you."
1. My children respect me without me forcing it. They respect me because they love me and trust me, not because I inflict pain.
2. There is no such thing as "respectful" pain.
3. Loyalty over safety and rightness? I am afraid of your family. I don't want my children to become enablers for the sake of family loyalty. What a horrible thing to wish on your children. I want my children to be compassionate people with a sense of fairness. I want them to WANT to be a member of the family because our family is a refuge and source of comfort. If a stranger is right and my children are wrong, then this is something we need to work out together. Loyalty above all is how families hide abuse and alcoholism and marital affairs.
4. As you mentioned, very young children are impulsive and can't reason. Spanking, therefor, wouldn't teach a lesson, either. And you can't talk to them. Until they can reason, distraction, and substitution are ideal solutions, because they will not "learn" anything from any form of punishment.
We DO have consequences in our house. If my son spills something, he has to help me clean it up. Voila - a true lesson. When we make a mess, we clean it up. If he throws something, which he is not supposed to do in the house, and it hits the baby, he has to come comfort the baby with me, and then he can't play with that object for the rest of the day - the object gets a time out. If there is a fight during playgroup, then both children sit down with us and we try to compromise - can the toy be shared? Is there a similar toy so that both children can have something? Can there be a trade, one toy for the one you want? And if he hits someone, which happens very rarely, we go home early - play group is over, and hopefully next time we will remember not to hurt, because we don't hurt things.
Dr William Sears, who is against spanking, has a book called The Discipline Book that is all about age appropriate discipline. If you go to this link - http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T060100.asp - he lists many ways to approach disciplining young children. And he is not permissive -he believes children can and should be disciplined - but in a way that truly creates self governance within a child.
You and I obviously have very different goals for our children. You value obedience above all, I value peace and free thinking above total obedience. But I firmly believe you can still achieve your goal without having to inflict pain. You can still teach those lessons you value to your children without spanking. My child listens to me 90% of the time, and the other 10% of time is impulsive behavior he hasn't learned to control yet, and I have done this without spanking.
- alisaterry September 19, 2008 8:53PM
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Missing The Point
Let's set one thing straight. I am not comparing my children to cows. Hence the reason I preceded my statement with, "I know you will blow this way out of proportion and try to use correlations that I am not making against me. But I will proceed with my statement anyway."
It is not my children or family you should worry for. It should be your own. You are teaching your children to avoid problems. I do not force respect. But I am a Christian and believe in the teachings in the Bible. I believe children should respect their parents. It is when parents started to reason with 4 year olds that this country started into a tailspin. And, if your child actually listens to you 90% of the time, then you are an exception to the rule. Do you remember "time out?" Something that social services invented to take the place of spanking. Did you ever subject your child to that? Hope not. Social services recently deemed it as child abuse and neglect.
We are simply going to have to agree to disagree. Believe it or not, I understand your point. I know that you are horribly wrong but I understand your point. You however, do not and will not attempt to see mine. So further debate is futile.
I love my children. I promote free thought. And my family comes before anything else on Earth other than my God. And yes, I will most certainly substitute one smack on the hand for a visit to the emergency room.
- Gideon From The Dirty Onion
September 21, 2008 8:15PM
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I do not teach my children to avoid problems
I just understand that a child as young as three isn't capable of reason so prevention is my responsibility. Why would I leave my child open to danger so I could smack his hand and teach him a lesson he's not old enough to learn? Why is prevention bad parenting of a little child?
Also, I am a Christian, too, and in my Church we are taught not to strike our children. In my Church we go by the New Testament, not the Old one. My Church leaders tell us that we should never raise a hand to our children, that we should earn our children's respect by behaving like Christ.
Christ never told us to strike our children. He said there was a higher law than "eye for an eye." He said "And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me. But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea." Matthew 18: 5-6
I do not use time outs. I use time ins. I sit with my child when he does something wrong or needs to calm down. I do not beg my children for obedience, either, or let them get away with things. I want them to love God and Mom and Dad, not fear God and Mom and Dad.
A six year old or seven year old has a better grasp of language and is easier to discipline, to learn right from wrong. But a little child? Don't smack that hand. Cover the outlet. They're innocent. They don't understand. There's no need to hurt a little child. Please stop smacking your little children.
- alisaterry September 22, 2008 4:45AM
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Messed up logic
The messed up Logic is not really messed up.
I will answer this from your own view:
You say you believe in the Bible. One particular new testiment verse comes to mind. "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right." In that verse there is no room for discussion as to whether or not the parent is right. It does not say "Children obey your parents as long as you agree with them and what they are telling you." If you truly believe the Bible, then you have to admit that Parents are put their to guide their children. It no where says that children have the right to back talk their parents, smart mouth them, etc.
I was always taught that in all things my parents were right. I was taught that you were to turn the other cheak. I was taught that you always defend your family, period. I was taught that you never speak out against your family.
- UltraConservative November 12, 2008 3:08PM
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Your Logic Falls Apart pt2
You need to spank when the child is too young for reasoning. What? Are you going to ask little Jonnie, "Don't stick your finger in the electrical outlet...you might get an oweee!" It is unreasonable to believe that a parent can follow their children around 24 hours a day 7 days a week, every waking second. If you disagree, you don't have kids. So, you pop their hand hard enough to sting only. That pain is the lesser of the two evils: shock or sting. The child understands that pain is associated with touching the electrical socket and does not return. If they do, consistency will prevail after a time or two. You may retort with, just put socket covers. Now you are teaching your children that the entire world is safe because Mommy and Daddy made it so. And when they actually enter the real world, they are unprepared because you sheltered them their entire life.
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WHAT'S WRONG WITH USING COMMON SENSE
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. We never used to use seatbelts, car seats or booster seats at one time but we do now. Why? Because it's the smart thing to do and in most places it's the law! Even if it wasn't the law, most people now are so used to it that they would probably do it anyway because they care about safety.Should we put a fence around the cliff or an ambulance down in the valley? I think that the former is the best way to go. I commend all the wise parents who put covers on electrical sockets, keep dangerous things out of reach, put safety gates at the top of the stairs, store firearms unloaded in a locked cabinet and/or put trigger locks on them when not in use and the list goes on. Whatever happened to common sense? YOU DON'T REACH FOR THE HONEY WITHOUT SMOKING THE HIVE,DO YOU?
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August 19, 2008 6:27PM
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They don't work
Experience: they covers don't work. My 7 year old was taking them out by the time he was two. By two he also figured out how to open the child proof drawers and cabinets. By two he had figured out how to open the baby gates. So, What do you do then? Put up fenses? Tell them "don't touch"? When all other options have been tried, and the only option you have is swating them to get the point across, I choose the momentary pain on their padded parts then burying my children because they electicuted themselves. Child proofing may work for some kids, but when the child has been tested to be highly inteligent and is carrying on intellectual conversations at 3, even then, reasoning does not always work.
- UltraConservative November 12, 2008 3:19PM
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Wrong Philosophy
This is a wrong philosophy. I was spanked as a child as a means of punishment and I grew up to be neither a bully nor a wimp. Neither did it make me think that it was ok to just whip up of people because they did something I did not like.
There is a difference between swatting a child to get their attention and beating the fire out of them.
- UltraConservative November 4, 2008 4:55AM
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violence as a solution (?)
Spanking children basically means teaching them that violence is an accaptable form of behaviour. Actually it´s even worse because it is violence against someone who is not remotely as strong as you.
How can someone who spanks children be a good role model?
- winstonsmith July 28, 2008 2:55PM
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Swatting is not violence
Swatting your child as a means of discipline is not violence as long as the reason behind it is discipline and not anger. Swatting done in anger usually ends in excessive corporal punishment known as abuse.
How can a person who refuses to discipline their children be seen as a good role model? Just go to Wal-mart and observe. You can pick out the children whose parents only use "now, Johnny, when we are in the store, behave." and those that tell their children "you mis-behave and when we get home you will get a swat." I was observing this scenario in Wal-mart the other day. I followed a mother around the store with her children. Her children were just walking all over her. She kept saying, "stop it". They acted as if they never heard her. Yet, there was another mom who, right there in Wal-mart, told her child one time, stop. When the child did not, she swatted the child right there. The child stopped and immediately said "I am sorry mommy." She got the point across and the child behaved. Did the swat damage the child? Nope.
- UltraConservative November 12, 2008 3:26PM
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Spanking = Hitting = Abuse
Dr. Straus just completed a study of 14,000 young adults showing that those who were spanked as children are more likely to have sexual problems. A study at McMaster University in Hamilton, ON showed adults who were spanked as children were more anxious & depressed, and abused alcohol & drugs more. A study of violent San Quentin prisoners found all were spanked a lot as children. A Univ. of Michigan study of 1,800 children showed spanked children exhibited worse behavior. A meta-analysis at Columbia Univ. of 88 studies showed spanking let to more aggression & anti-social behavior, more criminality & abusive behaviors, and worse mental health.To see a collection of research easily available online, go to stoptherod dot net / research dot htm Anecdotes and wild claims don't have the weight of solid research.
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Look up the definition
Look up the definition of those three words.
Spanking does not mean the same as hitting.
Hitting does not mean the same as abuse.
And Abuse is the result of what happens when spanking and hitting are taken to an extreme.
- UltraConservative November 12, 2008 3:27PM
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Rosemond untruthful
John Rosemond uses the title "Dr." because he has a PhD in psychology, yet he denigrates nearly all psychological research, and he disagrees with the APA's stance on hitting persons under age 18. He should drop the title of "Dr." since he cares so little about what psychology stands for.
It's interesting the picture chosen to portray children shows a girl with her tongue out. To a spanker this would show "defiance" and unacceptable behavior. However, a realistic picture of a 2 year old (the most common age for hitting children), with tears streaming down her face, trying vainly to stop someone much larger than her from hitting her, would be far more representative of the subject being discussed here. I'm sure such a picture would elicit far more "no's" in this vote.
Parents, don't hit your children. Find better ways. Set a good example, child-proof well, pay attention to your child, learn about developmental stages, and communicate respectfully. Your children will benefit.
- SojournerTruth
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Spanking is fine it just shouldnt be the only form of disipline
Look The problem is that parents are lazy and stick to one form of punishment.
Your child and most people in the world will get used to anything eventually(this is why P.O.W.'s suffer various forms of torture.)
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I agree with that
I agree with that. It should not be the only form of discipline and should only be used when all other means are exhausted. I only use it when reasoning with my children does not work. Those cases are few and far between.
- UltraConservative November 5, 2008 3:11PM
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Informed parents don't hit
Even "mild" hitting of a child can lead to worse behavior and aggression. This effect can last a lifetime, as much research has shown. I've compiled some easy-to-access research online, at stoptherod.net/research.htm if anyone cares to read it. John Rosemond should read it before he universally condemns the research on this topic or mistakenly attributes it all to Dr. Murray Straus.
Something important to remember, is that Rosemond is not a researcher. He speaks from a pro-hitting bias. This is understandable since he has been pro-hitting for decades in his advice columns and books, and makes his money by advising parents to be harsh toward children. He can't back up his claims about child-hitting with facts; rather, he panders to spankers who want to hear that hitting little children is a good thing. This is very unprofessional. CED, on the other hand, makes no money from defending children and the truth. From a financial viewpoint alone, Rosemond is the less credible debater.
- Susan Lawrence August 2, 2008 6:07PM
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Baby boomer response
I sincerely believe if a child deserves a spanking, they should receive it. It appears that we have a definite problem with the youth of today, as opposed to the older generation, most of which, I assume, received spankings as children. I don't see many 50, 60, and 70 year olds that have rebellious or violent tendencies because of their history of spankings. There is a big difference between spankings and beatings, and as long as the parent knows the difference, there should be no problem when a spanking is called for.
- Glasscat
August 3, 2008 10:20AM
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I agree
I agree that the children of today do not understand disipline these days. I used to teach preschool children and just in the last ten years I noticed a big difference in childrens behavior.Now I notice young people in their early twenties being very disrispectful towards authority figures e.g. teachers, bosses ect... These changes started when parents stopped spanking and used time outs or reasoning trust me does not always work and I speak from experiance I have two boys that not always behaved outside the home I was afraid to disapline them in public becaose I was afraid I would get into trouble for giving them one swat but on one of our outings one of my children was acting out and I was very imberrassed so I swatted his bottom and he stopped.An older lady approached me and said thank you!Young parents have to understand that if your having a bad time with your child at the think of the people around you. It is not pleasant when I have to go to the store and there is a child in front of you screaming because they can't have a toy or some candy and the mother is very emberassed I just think give the child a good swat it will stop even my kids look at those children in disbeliefe So I dont think my kids siffered from an occasional swat on the bottom or slap on the hand.So just think when you see someone swat there child remember it is there child so dont interfer and they are just trying to make not only there shopping trip better but yours also
- katlvbill
December 9, 2008 8:11PM
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Worked for me
I know the threat of a belt kept me straight some people need that. Had my 6th grade teacher not had that paddle there would have been anarchy. See I told you!
My son says the same thing today!!