Website Offers Advice on How to Get Your Girlfriend to Abort
By intern Andy M., from JillStanek.com
"Dealing With An Unwanted Pregnancy" blares the title of the article on AskMen.com, a website which claims 7 million readers a month.
AskMen.com has been criticized for the way it objectifies women with its "Top 99 Women" poll among other unfavorable facets of the site.
This particular article lays out a guide for men who don't want their partners to give birth to their preborn children. Written by a woman, Isabella Snow, it purports to be an inside look at how women think and act in such situations.
"For some women, getting pregnant can start clocks ticking and make them suddenly want to be mothers, despite previous agreements," warns Snow. In other words, she's not in her usual state of mind: you are going to have to do your utmost to convince her to deny new maternal feelings.
The entire article is geared against innocent preborn life and instead focuses on wants and lifestyles, primarily of the father....
Copious hints and suggestions are given to help the man make his partner feel relaxed and comfortable as he attempts to convince her that an abortion is the most favorable option. It's for a purely selfish motive: becoming a father could "put tremendous stress on a relationship, particularly if [he doesn't] want to have a child, but [doesn't] want to lose the girl, either."
The third person in the relationship is brushed aside as a mere "issue of an unwanted pregnancy" which encourages men to treat the situation as if it is only themselves and their partner that need consideration: "Will you have to sell your Harley and get a station wagon?" asks the author.
Oh, what a terrible thought! Yes, clearly ending the life of your unborn child is more preferable!
Ultimately, according to Snow, if a man has made it clear he has no desire for the pregnancy to continue, he is freed from any obligation to stick with the relationship.
The only redeeming factor to the article is it suggests if mothers insist on allowing their preborn children to live, men should feel free to change their minds and embrace their future roles as fathers.
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I highly doubt you could discuss abortion without considering what you are doing to the fetus, straw man.
Jane, I respect that you are a vigorous defender of what you believe, but I abhore this immensely anti-male rhetoric from you. If a woman agrees in advance that she doesn't want children , and then changes her mind once she's pregnant, the man should have every right to remind the woman of her statments of confidence. Furthermore, he should have every right to object to being held responsible for a child he thought he would t have to worry about.
I am a feminist by ideology and defend the rights of both men and women to have a choice in their lives and I fully support the rights of the man to defend his anti-fatherhood position. A woman that declares her intention to abort in the event of pregnancy is nothing more than a "con(fidence)-(wo)man" if she flips, keeps the child against the wishes of her male partner and tries to hold him responsible.
I completely understand why laws were enacted to force responsibility on the man, but those laws are pre-Roe and enacted to protect a population that did not have access to equal opportunity employment. Times are quickly changing and a man's right to obstain from a responsibility he was assured he would not have should begin to become a defendable position. I imagine it may become an issue in the near future, in the courts.
Thank you for your opinion Jane, but I wish you would at least consider the absolute betrayal against the male that is being made in these cases.
Yes, I practice what I preach. My girlfriend has assured me that any pre-marital pregnancies will be aborted. When asked, I did tell her that deviation from that plan will be viewed as a betrayal of confidence and she would lose me if she let the fetus grow into a viable baby on purpose. Even if that means I will have to pay child support. Confidence in a relationship is the backbone of a strong relationship, and I will accept nothing less. However, like any rational results based freethinkers, we don't want an abortion so we use birth control to ensure that we have a strong home to bring our future kids to, when it is ready for them to come.