Parents Using Dating Sites to Find Matches for their Children
Many mothers are now signing up for online dating, but not to find themselves a date. Sites like The J Mom, Duo and Telugu Matrimony help mothers find their sons and daughters a significant other.
"It's almost like outsourcing your online dating to your mom," said Kevin Leland, chief executive of TheJMom.com, a Jewish matchmaking site.
The site has more than 5,000 registered members and is described as "old school matchmaking with a 21st century twist."
Leland said the profiles are written carefully to "make the other moms want to be their in-laws and spend Thanksgivings together, spend holidays together and spend Hanukkah and Passover together."
The site is free, but a six-month subscription package costs $78. A Personal Concierge Service costs $199 and includes one-on-one advice and a profile makeover.
It turns out, the matchmaking is pretty successful, as it has already created lasting relationships.
Brad Weisberg, 32, was set up with a woman on the site through his mother. The two are still dating.
Barbara Weisberg, his mother, made a profile for him and described why he is the perfect match.
"Bradley is energetic, motivated, enthusiastic, and, if I do say so myself, an attractive young man," she wrote. "He is 5-feet-10 with brown hair and blue eyes. Brad is hardworking and very outgoing. These two characteristics serve him well as he is a realtor, the co-founder of this website and CEO of BodyShopBids.com at a venture capitalist firm."
Weisberg said, "of course it will be my own decision who I ultimately end up marrying, but I value and respect my mother's suggestions on women I might like to date."
Similarly, Duo, a South Korean matchmaking service, helps parents find matches for their children.
The site is not free and has annual fees starting at $2,000.
"The parents pay for the service and give them as a surprise gift for the children," said Julia Lee, a couples coordinator.
The parents then monitor the dating progress of their children because "they think that the marriage is not only a union between a man and a woman, but also two families."
Another site, Telugamatrimony.com, helps parents do the same.
Dwaraka Polepalle, 60, is a father who set up his daughter on dates with the site. It is free to browse but costs $91 for a three-month subscription that includes 20 dates.
His daughter Lavanya, 31, said she left everything up to her dad.
"If something good comes along, just let me know," she recalled saying to him.
He was able to find one man, Dr. Krishna Rayapudi, 33, that ended up becoming her husband.
"Honestly, I did know my husband was 'the one' as soon as I saw his picture and then started talking to him," Lavanya said.