Controversial Dating Pick-Up Book Draws Donations, Protest (Video)

| by Michael Allen
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The fundraising web site Kickstarter is under fire for allowing Ken Hoinsky to raise money for his proposed pick-up book Above The Game: A Guide to Getting Awesome with Women, which may advise men to place women's hands on their penises.

The controversial book project has raised more than $16,000 as of Wednesday, far more than Hoinsky's goal of $2,000.

However, the web sites and are calling on Kickstarter to pull the project page and the funding because the proposed book “promotes sexual assault."

“[The book is] designed to be easy to understand, quick to read and full of inspirational advice that gets people out there actually practicing and talking to women,” Hoinsky states in his video (below) on Kickstarter.

In the written part of his Kickstarter page, Hoinsky said some of the book’s content will be original, but other parts will come from his postings on the social media site Reddit in their “seduction” community. states that some of the Reddit posts by Hoinsky include:

Decide that you’re going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances.

Pull out your c*ck and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don’t ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your d*ck.

Those posts have reportedly been taken off Reddit, but a web cache shows the original posts, plus:

If at any point a girl wants you to stop, she will let you know. If she says “STOP,” or “GET AWAY FROM ME,” or shoves you away, you know she is not interested. It happens. Stop escalating immediately and say this line:

“No problem. I don’t want you to do anything you aren’t comfortable with.”

Memorize that line. It is your go-to when faced with resistance. Say it genuinely, without presumption. All master seducers are also masters at making women feel comfortable. You’ll be no different. If a woman isn’t comfortable, take a break and try again later.

Source:,,, Feministing.comKickstarter