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Woman Posts About Rape Just Minutes After It Happens, Receives Backlash

| by Emily Smith
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Rape survivor and activist Amber Amour reportedly shared the intimate details of her sexual assault on social media just moments after it happened. She has since received quite a lot of backlash. 

Amour was in Cape Town, South Africa, promoting her “Stop Rape. Educate.” campaign in November 2015 when she was attacked by a man named Shakir, Marie Claire UK reports. She had left her hostel after a two day bout of food poisoning when she ran into Shakir. He reportedly offered to take a shower with Amour, and she agreed.

“As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees,” Amour wrote on Instagram following the event. “I said ‘stop!’ but he just got more violent.”

Amour wrote the Instagram post (which can be read in full below) right after the rape took place. She also attached a photo of herself crying.

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“Here I was, telling survivors every single day that they should speak up… I knew I had to practice what I preached,” Amour told Marie Claire. “So the first thing I did was take a picture and write a post, describing what had happened.”

Amour said she posted the photo and caption while she was still in the bathroom where Shakir raped her and that she had simply posted it on instinct.  

Amour noted that there was no evidence of the rape because everything had been washed away in the shower and South African police wouldn’t take her seriously.

In response to commenters who said that she invited Shakir to rape her by showering with him, Amour said that nothing is an invitation to sexual assault.

Here is Amour's Instagram post in full:

It was only a few minutes ago but sometimes these things happen so fast it's hard to remember all the details.... I've been sick for the past 2 days and today was my first day out. I went back to my old hostel to leave a note for a friend, Nick. There was another guy there, Shakir, who was desperately trying to get with me. I kissed him once but he seemed drunk so I told him it was bad timing, I had already met someone. Before heading out, I went upstairs to say hi to one more friend, Clyde from the states. Shakir followed me upstairs and said he was going to take a shower. He invited me to join. I said yes because the water at my current hostel is pretty cold and after 2 days of being sick, I just really wanted a hot shower. As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees. I said "stop!" but he just got more violent. He lifted me up and put his penis in my vagina. I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry. When he shoved it in my ass, that's when I passed out. I woke up a few minutes later and saw him trying to creep out the door. When he saw that I was awake, he came back to finish me off in the shower. I have all those fucked up feelings that we get after rape...shame, disgust, suffering. I'm here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in. Feeling sicker than ever now. Needless today, I'm going to disappear for a bit. Just need to enjoy the freaking sun and call my friends and family in the states. Love you guys. Thank you for always being there for me. All the more reason to continue @stoprapeeducate but not today. Today, I need rest. #StopRapeEducate

Sources: Marie Claire UK, Nahook / Photo Credit: Marie Claire UK