Carol Abar was forced to pay spousal support to her ex-husband Ed Abar, who was convicted of raping her daughter (video below).
“Every time I wrote that check, I cried because I felt like I was paying the man that raped my daughter,” Carol told CBS Los Angeles.
Carol married Ed in 1991 when her daughter was 9 years old.
According to the unidentified daughter, Ed Abar raped and sexually abused her for 16 years, but she was too scared to tell her mother.
“He had threatened me that he would kill my mom. He would kill my stepbrothers. He would kill me,” said the daughter.
When Carol finally found out, she filed for divorce from Ed before he was charged for rape, which turned out to be a huge mistake.
Carol had a larger income than Ed, so she was forced by a court to pay him alimony of $1,300 a month. Since Ed had not yet been convicted, the rape accusation was hearsay.
“The judge told me I had no proof. It was my word against him,” said Carol. “He had been raping her since she was little. Since I got married to him.”
Carol has paid $22,000 to Ed until last year, when he pleaded guilty to one of the five rape charges. Ed was sentenced to more than a year in jail.
A judge temporarily stopped the spousal support, but now that Ed is out of jail, he has filed to reinstate the support.
“He’s asking not just to resume the existing support of $1,300 a month, but he’s asking for what amounts to approximately $33,000 in past due support and that too is a miscarriage of justice,” said Brian Uhl, Carol’s attorney.
“Under the law, he is entitled to some relief from the higher income producing spouse, so that the marital standard of living can be maintained,” said Ed's lawyer, Sherry Collins.
“His way to get out of jail was to take a plea bargain and that’s what he did, but he’s very adamant that he’s not guilty of any of the allegations.”
Under California law, the court will take domestic abuse into consideration, however, child child abuse is not mentioned in civil divorce law.
“He victimized a little girl all these years and I have to pay him for that behavior…it just doesn’t make sense to me,” said Carol.
Source: CBS Los Angeles,