Young Woman Tired Of Being Judged For Her Good Looks

| by Lauren Briggs

A young New Yorker says that life is hard for her because she is so good-looking.

In an article for Cosmopolitan, Felicia Czochanski wrote that she has received too much attention for her looks and not enough for her personality or accomplishments.

In the essay, published Friday, the 20-year-old Fordham University student lamented that people only pay attention to her "blonde hair, big hazel eyes, 34DDs, and toned calves," but they never notice her intelligence.

"Coming to terms with being perceived as 'beautiful' wasn't easy," she wrote. "It soon became how people knew me. People seemed to forget or simply ignore my accomplishments."

The young blogger and aspiring magazine editor said that strangers stare at her constantly.

“Imagine how it feels to have heads turn and all eyes on you when you are simply trying to get to where you need to be,” she wrote. “It doesn’t make me feel beautiful or sexy. It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me. The scrutiny is never ending.”

"I'm an athlete, I'm intelligent, and I'm incredibly ambitious," Czochanski added. But people never seemed to notice these things because they focused on her appearance, seemingly "satisfied with the kind of person I looked like I could be," she wrote.

The young writer said that she struggled with the unwanted attention growing up.

"I went through different phases as I tried to find a way to draw attention to other aspects about me," she wrote. She used to wear sports jerseys and oversized t-shirts, and she would constantly brag about her achievements, in an attempt to show others that there was more to her than just looks.

"I dulled myself down, personality- and appearance-wise, for years, trying to be appreciated for something other than my looks," Czochanski said. When she moved to New York, the self-proclaimed "girly girl" said that she could finally  be herself and wear dresses and heels. While people cat-call her all the time, she learned to ignore it.

"I demand to be respected, both my body and my mind, because believe it or not, there's more to me than just my looks," she concluded.

Sources:, Cosmopolitan / Photo Credit: Facebook via