Matt McConaughey a Great Dad, But He Should be a Husband Too
Matthew McConaughey announced on Father's Day he and girlfriend Camila Alves are expecting their 2nd baby. S/he will join brother Levi, now 11 months old.
No mother could ask for a better attitude toward children than McConaughey has. According to People, June 22:
For McConaughey, 39, fatherhood "is a wild, wonderful adventure.... It's a great new chapter in life, for sure."
On his website Sunday, McConaughey blogged about the couple's news:
Happy Father's Day. It's my first, and the last 11 months with Levi and Camila have been the most rewarding adventure to date.... We have more blessed news to celebrate this Father's Day that [will] make this time next year double the fun. Levi is going to be a big brother... Yeah, we pulled off the greatest miracle in the world one more time, Camila and I are expecting our second child, bringing more life into the world, making more to live for. The future looks bright as the family grows.... just keep livin, Matthew and Camila.
If only McConaughey would marry the mother of his children to bring stability and Godly role-modeling to his relationship.
In addition to acting, McConaughey is also the founder of the j.k.livin Foundation, a non-profit organization helping teenagers "to lead active lives and make healthy choices to become great men and women."
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Camila should be a wife. With a legal system that helps ensure that children whether "legitimate" or not have at least the financial support of their bio-fathers, marriage has become less important to the well-being of children. I still think it is a sign of maturity, the documentation of willingness to have the endorsement of society . The attitude that "I don't need anyone's permission" is an adolescent one, and troubling in parental units of either sex.
But, as long as children have financial and emotional support, I'm not prepared to say that marriage makes a difference. There are way too many people who abuse each other and their children and who are married.
The thing that does make a difference is realization on the part of the parents that they do have a life-long relationship. Whether they register that relationship does not change the fact that it exists. As soon as the sperm gets into the egg, until that life terminates, whether in a few months, prebirth, or in 50 or 80 years, one will be "Ma" and the other "Pa."
If they marry, it only formalizes the relationship, and divorce does not dissolve it.
What marriage does is announce an intent that the other aspects of the relationship will continue. That "loving, honoring, and cherishing" the other parent are important enough that the promise to do so is witnessed and documented. Like any contract, it can be broken. The absence of a contract in matters as profound as being loved, honored, and cherished is in my opinion foolish and juvenile.
I certainly would not undertake any cooperative enterprise that involved the things I value without some documentation. I value my sexuality and my psychological health too much to risk them in a non-marital sexual relationship. It's kind of like owning a 2009 Lexus and then handing the keys to the cute guy in the uniform at the front of the hotel. If he wasn't in uniform, he wouldn't get my keys, no matter how cute he was. The uniform implies a contract. Ugly, dull guy in uniform. Gets the keys.
As far as the guy goes. What are YOU thinking, to hook up with a partner who is willing to hand the keys to a guy with no uniform? Poor judgment on your part. In the short term it's great, you get to drive the Lexus. But if a pregnancy results, you have to trust this person in rearing YOUR child, maybe in managing assets (house, budget ). I'd be nervous.
You wanna drive the Lexus? Get the job, wear the uniform.
If there's a baby on board, you're not the parking valet. You're the chauffeur.