'I Felt Very Connected To Her': Teen Mom Sends Breast Milk To Her Baby's Adoptive Family

| by Ethan Brown
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A 19-year-old woman has committed to staying close to her child, despite giving her baby up for adoption, by pumping breast milk and sending it to her baby’s adoptive family.

Kaleena Pysher, from Anchorage, Alaska, wanted to stay a part of her child’s life, including doing whatever she could for the baby at the early stages of her life. 

“It made me feel so connected to her because I thought ‘My baby still needs me for something – she still needs me for food,’ and in that way I felt very connected to her, and like the adoptive parents still needed me,” said Pysher to the Alaska Dispatch News.

During the end of her senior year of high school, Pysher learned she was having a baby. While some others in her situation would have decided on other options, Pysher knew that she wanted to go through adoption, especially after she found out that a friend of the family was looking to adopt.

While in her fourth month of pregnancy, she contacted the adoptive family to begin the process. They became close, and Pysher began speaking with them every day, sending them pictures of her ultrasounds, and keeping the family up to date of the baby’s health and everyday movements.

“I would tell them, ‘Oh, she has the hiccups today,’ or ‘She’s moving around a lot today.’ Stuff like that.”

When she found out she was pregnant, Pysher knew she couldn’t give her baby everything that she would need, which is why she decided on adoption. However, Pysher wanted to remain very much in her baby’s life; in her seventh month of pregnancy, she decided she wanted to breastfeed the baby immediately after the baby, named Raylie, was born and then continue breast-feeding by pumping milk and sending it to the adoptive family.

Many facts have shown that breastfeeding is much healthier for an infant than formula, which Pysher understood after speaking with a nurse at the hospital. Once again showing her selflessness, Pysher said: “When a baby is fed breast milk, they are just way ahead of the game. I decided that I wanted my baby to have the best options and be able to grow – and so, I knew I was going to pump and give her that benefit."

After pumping, Pysher puts the milk into freezer bags and then sends them to the adoptive family, who pay all the shipping costs. The family actually told Pysher that they don’t need more milk, so she is donating the leftover supply to a milk bank in Colorado, who will test it and then send it to babies in intensive care units throughout the country.

Now, Pysher is off the breast pump, but still remains very close with her baby and adoptive family. 

“They have told me that we are a family now," Pysher said. "They said that I will always be her mother, and that they are appreciative of the gift of life I have given them."


Photo Credit: via Kaleena Pysher