Gay Issues

Cynthia Nixon: For Me, Being Gay is a Choice

| by Mark Berman Opposing Views

Former "Sex and the City" star Cynthia Nixon said she chooses to be gay, much to the chagrin of gay activists who insist that being gay is not a choice.

Nixon, who was in a relationship with a man for 15 years with whom she had two children, switched to women in 2004.

"For me, it is a choice," she told The New York Times. "I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice."

Many anti-gay and religious groups claim that being gay is indeed a choice, a choice that can be reversed. Gay activists, however, say people are born gay, and there's nothing that can be done about it.

Nixon said the activists are none-too-happy with her choice of words.

“I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice... you don’t get to define my gayness for me."

To Nixon, it's no big deal.

"A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not...

"Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate."