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Dating Site for Ugly People: Offensive or Useful?
Just launched: a British Web site billing itself as the first ever dating service for ugly people. TheUglyBugBall.co.uk brings people together who've identified themselves as less than attractive (thankfully, there isn't an outside agency determining whether these people are in fact as ugly as they think they are). UglyBug's founder, Howard James, says, “It’s a sad fact that up to half of the UK is made up of ugly people, yet amazingly nobody has ever thought of providing a dating service for them.”
TheFrisky.com's Jessica Wakeman makes several good points about this dating site. First of all, can the word "ugly" really be "taken back" and redefined positively by the group the word's being used against? Isn't it always an insulting term, and if so, do we really want people using it to refer to themselves? Secondly, ugliness and beauty are extremely subjective. If two ugly people find each other attractive, are they then no longer ugly? What if you think you're ugly, so you sign up for the site, but too many UglyBug members think you're "not ugly enough" and so you're asked to leave?
The site's home page contains a panel entitled "Five Ugly Truths about Dating." TheFrisky.com's Wakeman calls these five assumptions "downright untrue - not to mention cruel." She's right. It's hard to believe the UglyBug people aren't joking when they write, "Ugly people have had a tougher life and therefore tend to be more considerate and more loyal... they try harder in bed." Another "truth" about ugly folk: "Once with an ugly partner it is unlikely that anyone will try and take them from you, meaning you can let yourself go completely once you’re together."
Not everybody finds UglyBug's concept offensive, however. One commenter on TheFrisky is fine with the whole concept. "For heaven's sake, why is this a problem?" says "Cfivecents," who identifies as a "mildly ugly person." This commenter says UglyBug lets other aesthetically challenged people "look past" their looks, which might hamper them on a conventional dating site.
Defining each other by level of ugliness provides plenty of ammunition for ganging up on one another. The not-ugly-enough might feel flattered, but they'll still feel just as rejected as they would on a conventional dating site, where they've probably been told they're not pretty enough. Those who just manage to scrape under the "ugly" wire will probably get much more attention on the site than the less-attractive members. Where's the line, and who decides? Without careful supervision and moderation, UglyBug could end up being as divisive and exclusive as traditional online-dating sites, when its intention was to be just the opposite.
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There are date sites
for almost everything, including chubby folks, so why not less than attractive folks .....although I do agree w/Madgew ....more self esteem is a better answer!
Perhaps this is merely
a sympathy plea .... just another dating site with a name that will make you look!
so this is serious?
Sounds like a joke to me...but hey, I'm probably part of the ugly 50%, I should check it out...
Neither Offensive NOR Useful...
Disappointing perhaps... I'm not much for making MORE people, but I AM for people finding happiness however they can and if you consider yourself "ugly" then you need to be looking at YOURSELF and how you've let society mold how you feel about your self image before you go looking for someone who has the same problem.
Yes, there are "ugly" people out there, but you know what? The old saying is true, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Happiness isn't something you should seek in others, you should find it in yourself FIRST then seek to share...
Just went on the site
and I saw no ugly people. Maybe the people who think they are not attractive really aren't and have a lot to offer. Maybe some therapy in self esteem would be better than an ugly dating site.
Therapy?
Therapy doesn't "cure" looks, size, color, wealth, religion, sexuality.....and it doesn't get you a date when you really need one.
It may cure "ugly" attitudes, but there may be a site for people seeking that too and therefore unnecessary.
I don't follow anyone, because those that appear to be on the same path usually end up just getting in my way.
I really meant about psychological
feelings that you are ugly and therefore can't find a man or woman. Need to work on self image so that you can relish who and what you are and look like.
However...
I would think that if you've accepted who and what you are, enough to go to this site instead of hiding at home, then you've probably got your act together.
I don't follow anyone, because those that appear to be on the same path usually end up just getting in my way.
True.
I would hope this is the case but when I looked on the site very normal people none looking truly ugly to my eye.
And they too will see that...
when they find someone on the site that is attracted to them.
I don't follow anyone, because those that appear to be on the same path usually end up just getting in my way.
Nice...
Great model. Should make some money. I like it. Yes, even ugly people deserve a shot. Why not?
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