Santa Monica, CA… Must we abandon our childhood perception of safety to find fulfillment as Adults?
According to Sheldon H. Kardener, MD, the father of Focused Dynamic Therapy™ and coauthor of Breaking Free: How Chains From Childhood Keep Us From What We Want, Morgan James, $18.95, softcover, “Letting go of the known pain of deleterious behaviors and facing the fear of the unknown that change brings are both crucial factors in growth and essential tasks to complete before we can strike our chains and go through zero – the void – on the way to our desired goals.”
We must simultaneously tolerate both the unfamiliar and the loss of the familiar. “The void (zero) must be traversed … It is impossible to reach what we want as Adults while still holding onto our Child needs.” Dr. Kardener explains: “Watch a child play ‘Touch home and you are safe.’ As long as he holds on to the ‘safe,’ he can’t be tagged out. Of course, he can never move beyond it, either!” This graphically illustrates the dilemma of emotional conflicts. Letting go of the old means traversing a scary space to reach the new. In other words, “breaking free” equates to “going through zero.”
“Know what you need, but have what you want. Love the Child, but be the Adult,” Dr. Kardener concludes.
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Such is the journey through which Breaking Free: How Chains From Childhood Keep Us From What We Want will take you.
Not since the considerable success of Dr. Eric Berne’s Games People Play, has there been a book that intentionally bridges both mental health professionals and lay people. This book will reach both audiences and represents a contribution to better understanding the how and why of symptom formulation, concepts of psychotherapy, and current areas of exciting new research. The ideas developed by Dr. Kardener, and presented in his unique fashion, can be readily grasped.
Breaking Free is a breakthrough book… the biggest breakthrough in psychotherapy since the 60s that brought us Berne’s Transactional Analysis in Psychotherapy and Games People Play and Dr. Thomas A. Harris’s I’m OK – You’re OK.
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