"Entering the 'Gay Lifestyle'"

Cherie, your daughter did not "enter the 'gay lifestyle.'" She discovered that she was more attracted, sexually and emotionally, to persons of her own gender than to persons of the opposite gender, and apparently has met and fallen in love with a wonderful woman.

You and your parenting had nothing to do with this. She was born this way. No amount of Barbie Dolls or heart-to-heart, nurturing, mother-daughter talks could have made this any different. She is who she is, and that's a GOOD thing, not a bad one.

It's great that you have developed a loving relationship with her and her partner, but it could be much MORE loving and peaceful and Godly if you would grant her the respect to accept her for who she is. Do her the courtesy of admitting that YOU are not inside of her, and cannot possibly discern what she feels, experiences and knows about herself.

Let yourself off the hook. You didn't make her gay (other than at the genetic level, and there's nothing you can do about that). Accept her as the wonderful person she is, take credit for helping to raise her to BE that person, and stop blaming yourself for something which, not only is not your "fault," but is not a bad thing in the first place and NEEDS no attribution of blame or fault.

May God bless you and your daughter with peace, joy, love and understanding for one another, Cherie.