WASHINGTON -- The Institute on Religion and Democracy has released a new paper touting the social value of traditional
marriage and taking stock of the debate about its future in U.S.
society. Part of the Institute's Mount Nebo series on
religion and the public square, the marriage paper poses the question: "Our society's view of marriage, centered on mutual emotional satisfaction, is already far from classic Christian teaching. Now pro-homosexuality advocates are seeking to radically redefine marriage, reducing it to a relationship between any 'two people who love each other.' Amidst all this conflict, is it worth the cost for Christians to continue to defend this embattled institution?"
Designed for individual or group study, the 47-page paper examines key biblical passages related to marriage, as well as the history of the
church's approach to marriage. It surveys the official teachings of many denominations, finding "a wide agreement on many points." The paper presents social
science evidence showing the weakened state of marriage today, but also the benefits that marriage brings for both adults and
children. It addresses sensitive issues such as cohabitation and
same-sex marriage. The paper can be viewed free of charge on the Institute's website at
www.TheIRD.org.
Alan Wisdom, IRD's Vice President for Research and Programs commented:
"By many measures, marriage has weakened in our society. Fewer people marry. More people divorce. Increasing numbers follow a pattern of 'serial monogamy.'
"U.S. Christians have three options. They can yield to the trends devaluing marriage. Or they can admit defeat in society but try to maintain traditional teachings inside the church. Or they can swim against the current and insist that both church and society lend a hand in strengthening marriage. We believe that only this last option is faithful to the Scriptures and conducive to the long-term good of society.
"The battle for marriage is far from over. The question is whether U.S. Christians are ready to move from a defensive position (defeating efforts to redefine marriage) to a more proactive posture (working together to strengthen marriage)."
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why?
Why should society bend to the whims of a group within itself? Christians are free to define marriage as they see it amongst themselves... why should non-Christians be bound by that view?
- MrBook
July 28, 2009 5:46PM
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exactly
The crux of my frustration is the continued efforts by different religious organizations to legislate their scripture into our laws.
"Or they can admit defeat in society but try to maintain traditional teachings inside the church "
I very much can respect this statement. It's a shame that it's treated as a defeatist statement. They should be keeping their teachings within the church to start with. If the example set by the church is a great one, people will follow anyway.
- tek July 28, 2009 8:55PM
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They should not
"why should non-Christians be bound by that view"
They have a choice and they should live with there choices.
Why should a christian be bound by any one elses views? it goes both ways.
- countryboy
July 28, 2009 9:11PM
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reconciliation
How does that reconcile with this statement?
"U.S. Christians have three options. They can yield to the trends devaluing marriage . Or they can admit defeat in society but try to maintain traditional teachings inside the church . Or they can swim against the current and insist that both church and society lend a hand in strengthening marriage. We believe that only this last option is faithful to the Scriptures and conducive to the long-term good of society."
It sounds very much like the third option (and from the language used the one supported by the author) is about pushing those Christian values on the larger population.
- MrBook
July 28, 2009 9:17PM
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It sounds that way
But whats wrong with strengthening marriage ?
- countryboy
July 28, 2009 9:45PM
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biased
Doesn't that imply that the Christian view on marriage is objectively stronger then others? That is a view that Hindus, Muslims, Atheists, and others would disagree with.
Even the suggestion that marriage needs to be strengthened has not been objectively demonstrated.
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July 28, 2009 9:59PM
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not biased
Marriage is not popular in the US and also with christian this is a problem.
- countryboy
July 28, 2009 10:09PM
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popularity
It is popular among those who want to be married... but are not compelled by societies standards to be so.
- MrBook
July 28, 2009 10:23PM
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Nothing!
Nothing is wrong with strengthening marriage . Remember this is not a call to protect Christian marriage but for Christians to support traditional marriage. Marriage is a much more universal concept.
- mike1948
July 29, 2009 3:51PM
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marriage
You got that right!
- countryboy
July 29, 2009 5:58PM
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Threatened
So how does same sex marriage threaten 'traditional' marriage (and by traditional I mean marriage as it has existed for the last 75 odd years... not before that where men just bought women from their fathers)
- MrBook
July 30, 2009 6:47AM
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No falt divorce.
I think you know very well that I said nothing against same sex marriage . I was only correcting your trying to make marriage a Christian value rather they a value that has been common throughout society.
The real downfall to marriage was nofalut divorce.
- mike1948
July 30, 2009 11:41AM
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I'd hope you'd agree
that people of no matter what faith are bound by the laws of the land. So Christians are legally bound by the nation where they live.
- quantummechanik
July 30, 2009 12:51PM
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I'll tell you why.
Because it is the mission of many millions of faithful people in this nation to spread the word of God. Their hearts swell with love and joy to the point that they cannot contain it all within their being and they want to share that with everyone.
I wonder if the same love and joy swells within the breasts of proponents of same-sex marriage .
- SolarSanitizer
July 29, 2009 10:11AM
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Yes it does.
I have known and worked with gays that have been in long term committed relationships. Christians, with the love of God in their hearts.
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July 29, 2009 4:01PM
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hearts
“Because it is the mission of many millions of faithful people in this nation to spread the word of God. Their hearts swell with love and joy to the point that they cannot contain it all within their being and they want to share that with everyone.”
That’s all well and good for them, but their right to do so ends when they start pushing that opinion on those who do not share their beliefs.
“I wonder if the same love and joy swells within the breasts of proponents of same-sex marriage .”
I cannot recall a single serious instance of a homosexual suggesting that everyone should be gay. They all seem rather happy to let heterosexuals keep getting married… just wanting to get married as well.
- MrBook
July 29, 2009 4:32PM
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Happy
"They all seem rather happy to let heterosexuals keep getting married… just wanting to get married as well."
That’s all well and good for them, but their right to do so ends when they start pushing that opinion on those who do not share their beliefs.
So, here we have the crux of the issue, I believe.
- SolarSanitizer
July 29, 2009 4:57PM
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pushing?
How are they pushing their opinion on others? They are just seeking equal rights.
People who don't believe that homosexuals should get married are free to treat a married homosexual couple as though they were not (and look like massive jerks to everyone else) but they have no justification to deny legal rights to anyone.
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July 29, 2009 5:15PM
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It seems...
...That they are indeed pushing that on others by demanding church marriages. Civil unions by a magistrate are the legal and financial equivalent, but not enough. They are pushing for church marriages, just like heterosexuals get in their church.
If this wasn't the case, then why would the church frown on same-sex marriage ?
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July 29, 2009 5:27PM
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Demanding?
Can you cite one instance where they have 'demanded' a church marriage ?
Why does it matter where they get married or what it is called?
"They are pushing for church marriages, just like heterosexuals get in their church."
I have been to several marriages in my life time and none were in a church, only one was officiated by a priest... all of those couples are happily married.
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July 29, 2009 5:39PM
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Jesus & the coin
If I recollect correctly, Jesus instructed against messing with government. The U.S. Constitution wisely prohibits the state from interfering with issues of religion and conscience. Christ instructed his followers to avoid meddling in politics . Seems to make good sense to me on both sides.
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July 29, 2009 11:34AM
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