You have probably heard the expression, "Spare the rod, spoil the child." Do you agree with it? Perhaps you were spanked as a kid. Was it appropriate? Some people see spanking as an outdated method of punishment or even child abuse, while others view a swat on the bottom as a parent's prerogative. Where do we draw the line when it comes to disciplining our children?
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Egad, i just read this woman's so called "expert" comments.." I don't recommend spanking or not??" I am a parent, raised 2 sons without ever using physical punishment. I have worked with literally hundreds of children , teens , and young adults as mentors, substitue dad, shoulder to cry on, or just a sounding board, people that have SUFFERED from a "simple spanking." You have no idea the emotional or mental makeup of any child, expert, to say that spanking in any way, shape, or form should ever be done or allowed. Do you know that schools still spank in this country? 20 states STILL allow, and others that ban in public schools allow in private religious ones, spanking. They allow these kids to be bent over, often in front of other students, to be beaten and battered with a 2-3 pound board until the child/student is either crying and/or severely humiliated and embarrased. What, expert, exactly is the lesson taught here?
I believe truely we NEED LAWS banning it. It's because by allowing it by law , we open up all too ofen "pandora's box" that can have devasting results with a child or a teenager! Sorry, but your advice BLEW IT. You should be ashamed of yourself for calling yourself an expert..clearly you are not, or you did not think your response through at all.
Seattledad..a loving parent that does not believe in punishment..rather age appropriate consequences that TEACH and EDUCATE a child/teen to allow them, teach them to make better choices
- Seattledad
August 5, 2009 1:03PM
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i agree spanking is ok although it needs to be done correctly although i do not agree that they should have ever taking spanking out of the school system because now a days what are they gonna do suspend you news flash people dont care they see that as a vacation
- spanker October 14, 2009 8:16PM
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Spanking Isn't Always the Answer
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By Anonymous Expert - Parenting Expert
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Rosemond contradicts his own conclusions
In this argument Rosemond gives great reasons to never hit kids, but he then supports hitting them. He says "certain" kids should be hit -- which ones, how he defies this, is never said. Let's here it, what kids should and should not be hit Rosemond, what are your criteria? How hard should those kids be hit, and how does a parent know how much force they are using? Are bruises acceptable consequences? Red marks? White marks? What is you have two children, and one fits his criteria for "it's ok to hit this one" but the other does not -- how devastating to the struck child is that?
Good discipline is instilled in the mind, not the behind. Rosemond needs to re-evaluate his position and apologize to the many children out there growing up with bad memories caused by his advice to their parents.
- Dr Robert Fathman
August 1, 2008 6:47AM
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There's always an exception...
Spanking should be used as a last resort if it is effective. There's always another option to getting a message across to a child and whatever your methods, there is also always a limit as to how far you should go. I'm not saying a pat on the behind or a total beating will get a message into a child's head, but you as a parent should know the limit. As Rosemond said, it depends on what form of discipline is effective with your child and you shouldn't beat your child for just the heck of it, but to show them when they are doing something right or wrong.
- krispy
January 23, 2009 10:34PM
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Patience is the key
Patience is an imperative key when disciplinig children. It is hard to accomplish, but we've all got to remember that these are children. They are very impatient. Controlled patience allows the parent to analyze the situation and find a creative way to discipline and to teach the child what they are doing is wrong. Patience is a quality that most people do not have, but as an adult, the "mature human," it is important that as a parent, practicing patience will better the circumstances. Spanking is not always effective because it shows the child that you do not have the patience for the child to actually teach them the misbehavior as a misbehavior.
- Norm44
February 20, 2009 11:44AM
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