Removing Barriers, Not Changing Definition
Allowing lesbian and gay couples to marry does not change laws for anyone currently allowed to marry. It simply involves removing discriminatory barriers to the legal rights and responsibilities that come with civil marriage, and treats all couples equally. Many of the same arguments used against same-gender marriage were made against allowing interracial couples to marry, and against treating women and men equally in marriage.
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Marriage should be more than the legal rights and benefits that go along with it. The making of a family is the making of the very backbone of our society. Our children are raised by families to become good people in this world. Homosexuals should not be discriminated against and their rights should be protected. However, marriage should not extend to a gay couple just as marriage should not extend to any other couple that would not provide the basic needs that children have for a mother and a father, both being their natural parents, and that would not be the healthiest form of a family.
A woman was created for a man. Everyone has needs that can only be fulfilled by the opposite sex. It's how we were made. The family has a very specific set up for the most good to come of it. It is not perfect, just as people aren't perfect, but it is necessary to uphold the best family environment for our nation and future generations.
The research shows that most homosexuals, men and women, come from families without fathers. How can we say that the wounding a broken family produces (whether genetically predisposed or not) should end up being furthered and wounding more children that pass through its gates? Children need both parents, not just any two. This conclusion should be logical enough from how children are born. They have a mom and a dad. It is foolish to think this is a mistake. It works like this for a reason. It is because it is the healthiest environment for a family and therefore for our nation.
The fact that the government should push this fact by law, by not allowing for gay marriage, is right. While the government shouldn't meddle in all of our affairs, it is necessary that we have laws. Right laws protect our rights and protect us. In this case, they protect our family from further disfunction and protect the rights of marriage so that family can be in the healthiest form it can for us individually, as a community, and as a nation.
I here where you are coming from.Your view does seem however a little too idealized. I too am on the side of being against same-sex marriage, but I would like to play the devil's advocate a bit. You say children need to have both parents, not just any two...what if they don't have either? There are several children in the foster care system in need of adoption and should they be kept in that system for longer than necessary? Their heterosexual parents gave them up for adoption for a plethora of reasons depending on each story, and why should a homosexual couple not be able to take them into their care? They may be more loving and loyal than anything the child they adopt has ever had.
I agree with jacn. We need to be careful about idealizing marriage. No marriage is perfect. There are some pretty dysfunctional traditional couples. I think that it is really hard to argue to this side of the no same-sex marriage because there is not a lot of research. This is a new hot topic and not a topic that has been around for many years with many possible participants. I would like to see more research done. I think it would better help making an informed decision.
I agree with you whole-heartedly. We definitely need to realize that by having gay families, the family structure become dysfunctional and thus creates tension and negative effects on the children. Children need both a mother and father so they can be good citizens in this world. This is what the social norm has always been. However true this may be, the children need a good structured home to grow up in.
It was interesting in what you said that most homosexuals come from families without fathers. That explains and clears up a lot. Most come from broken families who are very confused with themselves. This is why having a man in the house is very important. They need to teach their sons how to become a man.
It is true that the government's job is to create laws to protect us and this includes the children. Children need healthy homes from the beginning of their birth. They need love from a mom and a dad and that means the government should not pass laws that confirm a right to gay marriages. It does more harm in the long run than it does good.