Hysteria Rules
The argument over whether to spank or not to spank, or more accurately, whether the state should prohibit parental spanking, per se, usually devolves into two equally "hysterical" (both senses of the term apply) points of view. The No Spankers contend that spanking is child abuse, that it is associated with various adult pathologies, that there is "always an alternative" to spanking (therefore, or so this tautology goes, one should never spank), that spanking teaches children that might is right, that spanking teaches children that violence is an acceptable way of getting one's way, and that since most of the same adults who spank also teach that violence is not generally acceptable, spanking "confuses" children. This is all (I am constrained here by a terms of use provision, but the reader may substitute a more inflamatory word of choice, all of which are probably more fitting) hogwash. But it sells. The Spankers, most of whom are Christian fundamentalists (as am I), contend that the Eternal, Adonai, God Himself commands parents to spank for misbehavior. This is (I am constrained, etc.) hogwash.
Sign up for the OV Daily Newsletter
OV Social
It is right to spank your kids, but there is a point when discipline becomes child abuse. If u don't spank your kids they wont obey as they should because they know u cant hurt them and they will do what they want but u shouldn't spank them if you get too aggresive and physically hurt the child and parents should not enjoy it.
I was spanked as a child and I have spanked my children . Funny I am in a soc. class doing a paper on spanking of children, we have a questionier that we have to have people fill out and my 2 boys saw it and filled it out. It is amazing there views on it. They themselves do not feel that it jepordizes the relationship between parent and child and both agree that they are only spanked when they know why they are being spanked. As far as the comment about we are better than animals the human race is just a animal, if you look into the animal behavior research all young are disiplined by the elders and not just by a loving hand or way. You get spanked you have more respect for your actions and less reactions to other people in the world. I love my boys they get almost everything they want they are even getting a new horse next week because they wanted her and they each have 2 now, they play sports , and anything else.
" spanking " "a swat" " a pat on the rear" are all terms for beating a child into submission. We treat animals better. A child who is capable of making the cognitive connection between being hit and what he/she had done to "earn" the hit is capable of being spoken to in a reasonable manner and told why behaviors are unacceptable. A child who is not capable of making that connection is too young to benefit from that type of punishment and should be gently redirected. Beating your child is not the same as taking away a privledge. What ever religion you may ascribe to, there is no justification for violence to another human being.
While the people who advocate spankers for God's purpose may not be a strong argue, those who are against spanking also require more depth to their argument, as stated. While spankers may say that this is child abuse, what will become child abuse next? Could a parent using a scare tactic to stop their child from touching a hot stove be considered mental abuse? This idea that cause and effect does not work is absurd since mostly everything one does is governed by what rewards or punishments they receive. Spanking is simply a punishment like taking away car keys or sitting in time out.
Most children, even preschoolers, are being taught to speak different languages such as Spanish and French in our world today. I think this makes kids capable of telling the difference between a pat on the rear for doing something bad and a display of affection. By gently discipling children, the parents will show their children what are "no-no's" without mentally damaging their reasoning skills and without smudging the line between abuse and affecton.
The person a child becomes is not only determined on whether the child was spanked or not. Just because a child was spanked doesn't mean he will be scarred, violent, and pathetically confused. Also, just because a child wasn't spanked doesn't mean he will be a saint either. Other aspects of parenting determine the person a child grows up to be, not just the form of discipline.
If your child is afraid of being spanked because youve done it to them before then they will obey you because theyre afraid to be spanked. "Fear is the greatest motivator"
Hello, I am writing a paper on opposing views and I have decided to go with rather or not to spank your child is right. As I was reeading your part of the debate, i got really confused because because it doesnt make sense. It doesnt make sense where you say that spanking may be right? You state in the middle of your comment "that the might is right" and that is very confusing because it doesnt make sense and just in general your conment is hard to read.
Thank You
Jackson015
Is it just me or was there no evidence to support his case in that piece of "expert" opinion? I'm not saying he's not an expert, but his status as such doesn't mean he can make unsupported claims. He summarizes the opponent's ideas and calls them hogwash. The end. This is not any sort of start to a debate.
Agreed. It is not any way to start a debate. Where is the evidence? I have read some summaries posted by another poster, but most of it was from a religious standpoint and so it was biased.