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Children of Working Mothers Often Struggle With Boundaries
- From Suzanne Venker
By Suzanne Venker - Author
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Again you are so wrong on this one, it comes down to a moms attitude be it working mom or not. Working moms are not lazy, stupid and irresponsible to depend on others to bring up their kids. They are very involved in their child's day asking teachers questions and giving instructions about naps sleep, food, its not like we throw our kids and run to the door. I for one do not believe in i have worked all day I shouldnt be the bad guy now, if they act out i make sure they are handled the way i used to when i used to be home, and that will never change. Like i said consistency is the key and many SAHM dont want to be the bad guys and in many cases children dont listen to mom since "ehhh she is home all day we are not going to listen to her" now if the dad walks in they will behave b/c he is less in picture, have you never seen SAHM threatening kids with "let your dad get home"
Its always the parent not the choice of WOHM or not, but parent itself, who set the boundaries and keep them regardless of if they work or not.
Are you seriously telling us that all kids to SAHM moms are free of issues emotional, physical and behavioral??? and i am suppose to buy that and feel guilty..???
- Najma jay
January 23, 2009 7:51PM
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When children are with their parents, they should be receiving discipline from both parents. But at a daycare, the child may not be getting the right discipline for their wrong actions. In effect, the child may attempt to get away with these actions at home and eventually will succeed.
- GraceG
January 25, 2009 3:59PM
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Discipline
From the argument that “working mothers are also less inclined to discipline their children during the hours they are with them simply because they have not seen them all day and do not want to spend what little time they have together having an argument,” my point of view was formed. I believe that working mothers do not want to punish their children after not seeing them all day. These mothers may feel as if their children will only see them as absent disciplinarians. Others may argue that the children will appreciate the discipline, but how can a young child or teenager understand this position? These mothers have a huge fence to straddle and most of the decision will be based on the family’s values and situations.
- GraceG
February 11, 2009 8:54PM
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The nature of young children
First, preschool teachers choose the profession that they have expecting young children that are often unruly for the simple fact that they are young children. Also, if one looks at a family demographic, if there is a father in the picture, he tends to be the one to shell out the most dicipline, leading one to believe that it is he who should be home the most in order to control the children. Things such as power struggles do often occur at home but it is my belief that they happen because the child wants to be an individual at certain times, not because they resent their mother from working. Children lash out constantly, mainly for reasons that are illogical but whether or not their mother works would not be high on my list for why they decided to do this. Based on my own experience, I do not believe that mothers hold back on disciplining their child just because they work. There are mothers that discipline to frequently, and those that don't do it enough. This says more about the mother's personality than anything else. As a child grows, many hours are commenly spent arguing whether a mother works or not; it is simply a fact of life that children agrue and disagree with their parents.
- Shay
March 1, 2009 6:21PM
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