Is Spanking an Acceptable Form of Discipline?

Is Spanking an Acceptable Form of Discipline?

You have probably heard the expression, "Spare the rod, spoil the child." Do you agree with it? Perhaps you were spanked as a kid. Was it appropriate? Some people see spanking as an outdated method of punishment or even child abuse, while others view a swat on the bottom as a parent's prerogative. Where do we draw the line when it comes to disciplining our children?

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  • Llantha

    - LlanthaUS July 27, 2008 9:32AM

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  • Llantha
    State Involvement

    If spanking is so evil, and children need society's protection, how come the lawless behavior of children has continued to increase with the increasing involvement of the state in family dynamics? Obviously if the No Spanking dictum was actually the best way to go, then with the increasing inability of parents to strike their children for anything (without getting arrested for a crime) the behavior of children should become more orderly and less violent. Am I missing something here?

    - LlanthaUS July 27, 2008 9:36AM

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  • reckoner
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    @llantha
    "Am I missing something here? "

    Yes, you're oversimplifying. Other societies, with much less spanking than ours, have less violence in their societies. If what you say is true, they wouldn't.

    - reckonerUS July 28, 2008 11:27PM

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  • JRhornet042
    Spanking IS a consequence!

    Llantha is right, CED fails to address what the possible consequences are in their "positive discipline" solution. Wouldn't spanking be one of them, and if so doesn't this solution for parenting go before the spanking and really not replace it?

    - JRhornet042US October 26, 2008 3:40PM

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  • Adam Hammond
    missing the point, really

    There are better alternatives to every kind of punishment. They frequently require going back in time, or replacing the child with an older child, or using some kind of physical restraint that is just as likely to be harmful. No one is suggesting that spanking should be the centerpiece of child rearing - the punishment of choice. You are making the difficult argument - NEVER.

    - Adam HammondUS November 12, 2008 3:06PM

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  • krispy
    Not Always Effective

    What happens when those alternatives to spanking don't work? Sometimes, as a last resort, spanking is the only effective means of teaching children how to behave. A child who isn't spanked often obviously won't enjoy a swat to the rear and will most likely learn from their mistakes so as to avoid the unwanted spanking. Of course there are better ways to handle a situation when a child is misbehaving but sometimes the situation demands a slightly harsher punishment. It really depends on knowing your child and knowing what methods are effective and reasonable.

    - krispyUS January 23, 2009 10:56PM

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  • Edgin7
    Say What?

    Spanking IS a consequence. When i was younger and i was bad my mom would say "You don't want me to get to three!" Then she would start counting. . . ."one. . . twwwooooo. . . " and i would stop every time before she got to three. In fact she still does it today. Why does it would i don't know - but plain and simple: it does.

    - Edgin7US January 25, 2009 9:54PM

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  • Kelsey R
    Moderation

    I think spanking is ok in moderation. If possible, I think parents should try other methods of punishing their children first, and if that doesn't work then they can spank them.

    - Kelsey R February 11, 2009 2:04PM

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  • Norm44
    Leanding a learning hand to children

    Exactly! Let children know what yu expect from them. Let them learn patience and control and kindness instead of letting them learn how to hit and scream and lose control.

    - Norm44US February 20, 2009 11:36AM

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  • LaVonne
    Diana Baumrind's Latest Research

    A plethora of methodological issues are present in Baumrind's latest study which render her conclusions meaningless. See www.nospank.net/straus10.htm

    - LaVonne August 8, 2008 6:41AM

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  • crunchymom
    What an illogical conclusion

    I do not spank my children, and they are not on medication. Sometimes talking doesn't work, but why I should resort to violence instead? My primary form of discipline is helping my child make restitution and solve the problem - if he breaks something, he helps me clean it up. If he is fighting with someone, we work together to figure out why and how sharing and talking is a better way to resove an issue.

    How does spanking teach my child conflict resolution?? How does it teach him the natural consequences of his decisions?

    Discipline is not "spanking or not discipline at all." What an illogical and dishonest conclusion.

    - crunchymom September 19, 2008 3:52PM

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  • Mom of 3
    CED's Agenda to Support Teaching Positive Discipline

    Controversy is raging as evidenced by recent articles regarding Abuse of College Sports Athletes by Multi-million dollar coaches, i.e., Texas Tech Coach Leach was recently fired for making a college football player with a concussion stand in a dark closet for hours as punishment because he didn't believe the player was really injured and did not like his "work ethic". Teachers and coaches are not required to adhere to any standard "Code of Ethics". Let us hope all the media attention regarding abuse of students by those paid to be entrusted with their care and education will result in pressure on U.S. Government to stop ignoring Children's Fundamental Human Rights by ABOLISHING Physical/Corporal Punishment of Children in Schools immediately!

    U.S. Congressman George Miller, Chairman of the House Education Committee introduced Legislation this month to Protect Children from Abuse in Schools by Preventing the Use of Harmful and Deadly Restraints (a Texas teen died when his teacher sat on him and ignored his please that he could not breathe, he died on the classroom floor in front of his classmates, the teacher is teaching children in another state) and Seclusions ( kids have died by committing suicide in locked dungeon/coffin-like boxes/windowless concrete rooms constructed by school employees) on children in schools to provide Federal Oversight that will hold school employees accountable for criminal/civil liability, yet the legislation FAILS to ABOLISH Physical/Corporal Punishment, where school employees hit children with WOODEN PADDLES to deliberately inflict physical pain and suffering intended to punish them.

    U.S. Government HYPOCRITES it is a dirty little secret that children continue to be struck with boards for SCHOOL discipline purposes in 20 states. It is a dangerous practice, a practice that is not evidence based, and a practice that puts us at odds with over l00 countries which have banned it.

    The U.S. Education/Government MUST implement a similar program to Queensland's first behavior school for Prep students where CHILDREN as young as four who are too violent to teach will be sent to Queensland’s first behavior school for Prep students.

    The trial center will open in January and comes as primary teachers complain of being hit, kicked and sworn at. Experts say the epidemic of broken families and substance abuse in the home is fuelling the anger and volatile behavior in young children. Educators want the initiative rolled out across Queensland to protect staff and other students and save troubled kids from growing into dangerous adults. Their parents will be encouraged to take part and will be taught life skills in recognition that behavior problems usually stem from home.

    A school discipline policy should be designed to guarantee the safety of students and staff, create an effective learning environment , foster respect for others, and teach students how to resolve conflicts.

    Corporal punishment achieves none of these goals, so why is it still around?

    Worldwide MEDIA exposure of this Travesty of Justice regarding neglect/indifference by U.S. Education/Government Officials to protect Children’s Fundamental Human Rights in SCHOOLS will result in PUBLIC OUTRAGE and DEMAND to ABOLISH Physical/Corporal Punishment of ALL CHILDREN IN ALL SCHOOLS, the Cost is $0.

    - Mom of 3US January 6, 2010 1:04PM

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